Since I can remember I have been working toward something. It starts with school, taking your exams, obtaining your GCSEs to go on to the next stage, be it college, A-Levels, apprenticeships. You then work toward the next stage, university, or employment. If you go to university chances are you studying for a degree with a view to getting a ‘career’. A job that allows you to then go on to start saving for a house, to go travelling, to get married. These are all things we are working toward to improve our situation, better ourselves or achieve something, in the pursuit of happiness?
We spend goodness knows how many years of our lives in this stage, the trying to clamber on to the property market to climb the career ladder. If that isn’t enough we might then start a family. You then find yourself in an abyss of exhaustion, feeds and nappies, getting through the newborn stage, the sleep regression stage, the weaning stage, the potty training stage and then we go through it all again and have another baby, maybe even another after that.
You may even be doing all of this at once, having babies, climbing careers ladders, getting yourself on the property market, getting hitched.
The haze that is the baby stage is starting to lift over our house, with the youngest turning two in a few months. Having two babies very close together certainly made this stage a tad challenging at time. Now you see that challenge has eased, that’s not to say toddlers are easy but two under two, and the two under one phase certainly had it’s difficulticulties.
Might point being, that early newborn phase x 2 is over and our next step is an extension. A big build that involves knocking down walls, lots of them extending our house, moving drain pipes, water supplies, fitting a new kitchen electrics etc all that comes with it. Obviously we want to improve our family home and the lives we lead in it, but it will be a big undertaking with a young family. It is just another example of something that we work toward and through througought our life.
We are also working on or toward another very big project, of which I am not going to disclose just yet. Suffice to say however it is huge but again takes a lot of working, planning and effort, all in the name of improving our lives for us and our children.
What then, what will do when our build is complete and our other project has come into fruition? At this moment in time I cannot foresee what else could possibly be next, perhaps re addressing the career ladder, I don’t know? No doubt there will be something. No doubt we will find something else that we are working toward, something else we want in the name of self improvement? Will the seemingly constant quest for improvement ever end? Will we ever just be content? Are we ever just content?
Perhaps that is what retirement is for. Perhaps those are the days for enjoying the fruits of labour, perhaps that’s why they call the ‘golden years’. It seems a little ironic somehow.
What do you think? Do you constantly feel as though you are working toward the next step? Forever trying to improve life as you know it? Or are you ever just content? I would really love to hear from you.