#whatwouldyoudo? Holiday child care or not?

#whatwouldyoudo? Holiday child care or not?

As always, Mr Tammy and I are planning and preparing for our next getaway. We have a few things in mind but one thing we have toyed with, that we have previously pushed aside, is a holiday complex that offers childcare. I am not talking about the free kids clubs you see with most package holidays. I am not talking about these only because my children are too young to qualify for them. They usually start from age three and my eldest isn’t three until August.

Having been bombarded with Mark Warner posts lately, and having spent a fair bit of time trawling through their holidays, it is clear that one of their big selling points is that they offer childcare with registered nannys from babies to teens. They are not the only company to do so.

Of late we have given holiday complexes a bit of a wide birth, as we find private rentals generally easier with a one and two year old, and we’re all about the easier life. That said, these childcare providing facilities have crossed our path and it has left me wondering whether I would actually use them? I know Mr Tammy would, and previously I would have declined on the basis that we are on a family holiday and I am there to be with my family, children included….ya know, we’re making memories people. Urgh.

Also, lets face it, mum guilt is largely at play here. The thought of palming them off so I can, I don’t know sit in the sun, read a book or do something without them weighs heavy. It makes me feel unsettled. Their age doesn’t help, at 20 months and two I worry they can’t communicate effectively, that they don’t understand the concept of time or what is going on. Why mummy is leaving? Were they say 5 and voluntarily skipping off to the kids club I can’t imagine I would bat an eye lid. Well may be a little, they will always be my babies.

Zara playing with the gate on holiday

Zara playing with the gate to the swimming pool on holiday, whilst I stood guard. For Hours.

Now let’s get some prepective here people, these clubs are for 2 or 3 hours a day. They are run by registered nannys, who are all qualified. They are either British or trained in the U.K – NOT that the country or nationality is swaying factor, it is simply a point that 1. Language shouldn’t be a problem and 2. Their training should be no different than that of a nursery nurse where we can leave our children for eight hours a day, as we head off to work.

So there is something niggling away at the back of my head.

Perhaps it is being run ragged all day every day by my two busy, demanding and contrary  toddlers. Perhaps it is because Mr Tammy works 6/7 days a week without real down time. Perhaps it is the fact that no previous holiday has offered up much in the way of a rest or indeed holiday. Perhaps it is because I am so tired I feel ill or that I crave just a few hours that are not dictated by the wants and needs of two tiny humans. Perhaps it is just thought of sitting still, on a sun bed, with a cocktail in one hand and a book in the other, hey I am human right? It is a nice thought isn’t it, to have two hours a day to sit, read, nap, eat an ice cream to yourself.

Could it be more than a thought? Could I get over the mum guilt (and myself) enough to leave them with someone else for two hours so I can just be, and be with Mr Tammy? Am I being selfish? Or am I giving my self an unduly hard time over it? Could you? Could you use the baby/childcare facility? Would you? Have you? I’d love to hear from you. #whatwouldyoudo?

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  1. March 28, 2017 / 6:54 pm

    We haven’t but we seriously considered booking a cruise this year because they have night nurseries!! (You have to go and pick them up at like 1am or something but you can go out in the evening and have a drink and a meal! Sounds amazing!!

    I think I’d try it once and see if they seem to enjoy it x

  2. March 29, 2017 / 6:35 am

    I did it in the past. To celebrate our anniversary, we chose to leave him in his daycare without taking him along. Its nothing odd as I leave him daily to the daycare while being in Office for 8 hours. We deserve the relaxing ME time. Its not much to ask for. Better is we need not ask anyone but overcome our own guilt. #familyfun

  3. March 29, 2017 / 6:37 am

    I would definitely do it! We had our first holiday last year to Mallorca and we put Molly in the little crèche for a couple of hours (she was 2). She loved it and it meant that we could have some much needed time to ourselves. The majority of the holiday was spent with one of us watching her while the other one sunbathed etc…it was lovely but still stressful trying to watch her all the time. I would use a babysitting service in a heartbeat – you need a holiday too! #FamilyFunLinky

  4. March 29, 2017 / 7:11 am

    My super paranoia meant I never made use of a service like this. We did however, leave her at the kids club at a resort in Mauritius for a little while. I was nervous at first, but everything went well – she had loads of fun, and seemed to enjoy the independence, and we got time to relax poolside with cocktails and have an actual adult conversation. :) x #FamilyFun

  5. March 29, 2017 / 7:12 am

    I know what you mean about the mum guilt. I think i’d feel terrible… Although, on holiday in Lanzarote last year I found myself starring longingly at the child free people who were sunbathing in peace because their kids were in the crèche (molly wasn’t old enough). At that point I wished I could have some ‘me’ time. That never happened and I went home from holiday feeling like I needed a holiday.. So, even though I would feel really guilty (at least for 5 minutes) I think I would use a crèche or something. Only if i knew the staff were qualified and all that… #familyfun

  6. March 29, 2017 / 7:30 am

    I think I would use childcare if I felt ok with the staff I met but it wouldn’t be a daily thing x #familyfun

  7. March 29, 2017 / 7:34 am

    Oh, i could. Easily!! You deserve a break. And, they’ll have a great time. They probably want a break from you too! It’s not a bad thing at all. You still get your family holiday the rest of the time! #familyfun

  8. March 29, 2017 / 8:42 am

    So funny I’ve just read this as I have a post waiting to go live about this very subject and our experiences… We found that having childcare was great, Amelie had a wonderful morning and it replicated her routine at home (going to preschool) and it meant she was out of the sun for some of the day. It’s everyone’s personal preference but we all enjoyed our holiday this way.

  9. March 29, 2017 / 8:43 am

    Ops and #familyfun

  10. March 29, 2017 / 9:03 am

    I would definitely do it! Yes its a family holiday but you deserve some time to relaxing as well. My 3 are at school and nursery so are used to being without it in the day time so it wouldnt be a total Shock to them and it woukd be fun for them as well as they can do activities you may not think to do with them and they can make new friends too :) #familyfunlinky

  11. March 29, 2017 / 9:16 am

    I don’t think I’d do it personally at the moment because TM hasn’t ever been to nursery or anything so I have no idea how he’d be in that setting without any family. But I don’t see it as an issue! I think it makes sense to want to enjoy part of your holiday on your own. And it’s no different to kids clubs really! I don’t think you’d need to feel guilty about it 😊 #FamilyFun

  12. March 29, 2017 / 11:11 am

    It’s a tricky one. I’d love to have a few hours to just relax and enjoy myself with my husband on holiday, but I suspect my daughter would get really upset if I tried to leave her with strangers. She still gets upset when I drop her off at nursery and she knows the staff there. It’s probably a no-go for me, but I think it’s a great idea if your kids will put up with it! #FamilyFun

  13. March 29, 2017 / 11:36 am

    I never did it with the kids and I SWEAR I am the only person I know who doesnt do it.

    Now I kind of want to go back and kick my own ass for not taking a few evening to ourselves on vacation.

    #familyfun

  14. March 29, 2017 / 7:09 pm

    Argh this is a hard one. If I had more than one kid and they had each other – then maybe, but I just don’t think I could do it to my little man. He’s so aware and he’d want to know where we were going and why he was being left with a bunch of strangers in a strange place. I’ll be interested in what you decide to do :) #familyfunlinky

  15. March 29, 2017 / 7:39 pm

    So like you, they’re my kids i feel like it’s my job to look after them. As someone who hasn’t left him with anyone else except his dad before I wouldn’t do it when they are so young. I’d rather send Dave off and be by myself for an hour knowing they are bonding!! #familyfun

  16. March 29, 2017 / 8:07 pm

    I don’t think you are selfish. I think it’s good idea that holiday child care. You can go with your hubby for romantic dinner or take a walk through the beach. We booked our holiday for June and it’s first time for us with a baby and I’m not saying that I will not want to put him for 2 hours i child care
    #FamilyFunLinky

  17. March 29, 2017 / 8:20 pm

    I’d love to in theory but the Mum guilt would get me. I feel bad at the notion of leaving the wee man to go to work never mind actually have fun! #familyfunlinky xxx

  18. March 29, 2017 / 11:56 pm

    we’ve always gone one step farther and left the kids behind! Sometimes you need time as a couple. These services sound like a great way to get a few hours of that and still bring the kids along. #familyfun

  19. March 30, 2017 / 6:40 am

    My husband thinks these are a great idea but I worry about leaving my kids with people I don’t know. The fact they have UK training reassures me because it makes it similar to leaving her at nursery. I’m rather paranoid by nature though so would need to feel confident in the security of the crèche area. I would only do it if I were staying in the vicinity too. But I think as they get older and can communicate / know who they are, it does seem like a great idea to give parents a break. Especially since you are with them all the time, you deserve some space.

  20. March 30, 2017 / 12:39 pm

    I don’t think wanting a bit of me and hubby time is selfish or something to feel guilty about- it’s healthy and normal! If you know the facilities are good and are comfortable / safe etc, I don’t see why not. It’ll teach them some valuable social skills, help them make some new holiday friends and it’ll help you both get used to being without the other.

  21. March 30, 2017 / 12:53 pm

    I’ve never done it. I worry about leaving them with people that I don’t know. I think this is probably because I’m not used to leaving them anywhere – I’m a SAHM so the toddler is always with me, and we have no family near us so they hardly ever leave my side.

    But I can understand why people do – sometimes you come back from a family holiday and you feel like another week to recover from it! It’s a tough one #ablogginggoodtime

  22. March 30, 2017 / 3:53 pm

    Ah, I can feel your dilemma (mumguilt, dammit!!!). It’s a tough one. But I see your point…
    I’d say you could have the best of both i.e. leave the tots in the daycare every alternate day of your holiday – that way you get SOME time to yourself and you won’t feel THAT guilty palming them off to daycare while soaking in the sun! Either ways, hope you’ll have a fab holiday!
    #ablogginggoodtime

  23. March 30, 2017 / 6:20 pm

    I’m not sure how I’d feel about it. I remember the first time my oldest went to the kids club, even though it was a gated community I couldn’t relax at all and had to keep checking he was ok. Just my own paranoia as I’m not nearly so anxious back home. At the same time I do think they’re a great idea as long as it’s not for too long or every day.
    #FamilyFun

  24. March 30, 2017 / 6:42 pm

    We have never been able to leave our big lad with anyone he doesn’t know so I can’t answer this hun all I will say is do what feels right for you! Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

    • April 2, 2017 / 11:53 am

      Popping back from ##FamilyFun too 🌸

  25. March 30, 2017 / 7:32 pm

    Hmmm…what a good debate! In all honesty, whilst I don’t have a problem with it, and think it’s a smashing idea, I just don’t think I could bring myself to go through with it. I was brought up that holidays are family time and I wouldn’t want the kids to miss out on a moment of us together. Probably my own worst enemy because all I ever do is moan that I need a break! I guess I’d love down time as a couple, but I’d probably do that separately to our family holiday.
    Good luck in deciding!
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub

  26. March 30, 2017 / 9:06 pm

    You are not being selfish – do it!!! Like you say it’s only a couple of hours a day and if you’re feeling anything like me you need some down time. If they are happy going, then I don’t see the problem. You will still have lots of happy family moments together the rest of the time… in fact you may well have more as you will feel everso slightly more refreshed! #familyfunlinky xx

  27. March 31, 2017 / 8:42 pm

    Let go of the mum guilt and enjoy. If you have a chance, take it #familyfun

  28. March 31, 2017 / 9:02 pm

    No need to feel Mum guilt at all! A break for you and a break for your babies means that the time you do spend with them is so much better and so much more special. You get time to relax so then it is an actual holiday for all of you. Let’s be honest, a holiday with small children is definitely not a holiday if you don’t have any time for a break. #ablogginggoodtime

  29. April 1, 2017 / 8:42 am

    As you point out it wouldn’t be a family holiday if your children were being looked after by someone else. I’m all for keeping together personally. #FamilyFun

  30. April 1, 2017 / 9:09 am

    We’ve taken advantage of holiday childcare – only for 2 hours at a time but BB loved it – new toys, the undivided attention of a grown up who was there to play – she didn’t give us a backward glance! #familyfunlinky

  31. April 1, 2017 / 12:40 pm

    I love the idea of a holiday like we used to have just us two, but for me a holiday is now a family holiday including Ben. If we had another child they could occupy eachother, but for now we’re looking to have some child friendly places so a waterpark nearby, a resort with a play area. Not too sure about kids club yet but of course when they get older to go off and socialise for an hour or two whilst we sit by the pool of course! but for any longer than that I think the inner demons would grate on me – as much as id love the day in the sun with just adult company
    #familyfun

  32. April 1, 2017 / 7:39 pm

    It is a long time since I did these holidays but I have to say in our experience it worked well. The kids loved it and we got some down time during the day. It is a win, win I think! Having said that we didn’t fall into the family group that did it every year. The whole complex thing drove me crazy so every other year we did the villa with no-one but us. Good luck. #familyfun

  33. April 2, 2017 / 9:41 am

    I know how you feel. I really need and want a week alone on a sunbed with a book… an actual real book that I can finish! But I wouldn’t ever do that because of the guilt. With the activity camps/childcare I bet the kids will have more fun there than with you though! #familyfunlinky

  34. April 2, 2017 / 2:18 pm

    Ooh tough one. Personally I wouldn’t at that age, like you say I’d be worried about my daughter being somewhere completely new and with strangers. Nursery is in theory the same, but they have a built relationship with their care givers etc. I may try kids clubs in hotels etc when she’s older but for now Daddy and I will have to tag team it for our half an hour stints reading on the sunbed and wait for alone/sangria time once she’s in bed! #FamilyFun