So lately, well for years now actually, I have read a few things about the ‘normal’ mum and how we should be championing her. It got me to thinking however, what or who is the normal mum? Is it you? Your mum? Your Friends mum? Or is it me even?
I am a stay at home mum, am I normal? My friend is a part time working mum – is she normal?
Crafting makes me stressed and I am a sucker for soft play. Does that make me ‘normal’?
I drink too much wine and eat too much chocolate. That’s normal right?
I like a night out, still, even though I hate the following morning. I often forget the consequence of the extra drink, or two, is that normal?
My children like a McDonalds but I try to make sure they have fresh, home cooked food as much as possible. Pretty normal right?
I like to put make up on everyday, some days I do a better job than others but everyday involves two children rifling through my bag or clambering over me. Again, normal yes?
My Instagram is trying to be pretty, but my house is a tip, my kids are crazy and my sanity waining. Normal?
My Facebook shows more of an insight into the often difficult reality that is life with two toddlers. Does that make me normal?
I love my children unconditionally but boy do I need some time to myself every now and then. Normal?
I like to try and keep ‘on trend’ but often fail miserably wearing the same old stripy top with snot on my jeans. Does that qualify me as a ‘normal mum?’
I don’t particularly care to have a ‘mum tum’ and try my best to keep it at bay. I am not expecting my pre baby body back, it has changed immeasurable and that is ok, but does wanting to wear a size 10 make me normal?
I still seem to growing lots of weird sprouty baby hairs, on my head, despite not having been pregnant in two years now – someone please tell me that is normal?
But seriously, what the heck is normal?
I like to think there is no such thing. Whether it is tea or champagne that gets you through your tough mothering days. Whether you have to drag your arse to the office or pretend to enjoy painting your hands at home. Does it really matter? Do any of these things make you a normal mum? And if doesn’t what are you? Are you abnormal? Are you someone who doesn’t need to or deserve to be championed? Because you like things to look a certain way, or costs, or not, a certain amount? Because you might wear a style of clothing over another?
If I am not a normal mum does that make me an abnormal mum?
Make up or no no make up, mum tum or not roots or no roots, SAHM or working mum, whoever you are whatever you do then surely, normal is as normal does to suggest otherwise is well, bordering on insulting. I am not in the business of celebrating the ‘normal’ mum, the yummy mummy, the pulling my hair out in desperation mum or any one kind of mum. Each and every mum has their place and each an every mum should be celebrated, championed and appreciated for they are.Don’t forget peeps, it’s time to celebrate your mum, and yourself if you are a indeed a mum this Sunday.
Happy Mothers Day you lovely mums!