Who Is This Normal Mum? And Why I Am Not Celebrating Her.

Who Is This Normal Mum? And Why I Am Not Celebrating Her.

So lately, well for years now actually, I have read a few things about the ‘normal’ mum and how we should be championing her. It got me to thinking however, what or who is the normal mum? Is it you? Your mum? Your Friends mum? Or is it me even?

I am a stay at home mum, am I normal? My friend is a part time working mum – is she normal?

Crafting makes me stressed and I am a sucker for soft play. Does that make me ‘normal’?

I drink too much wine and eat too much chocolate. That’s normal right?

I like a night out, still, even though I hate the following morning. I often forget the consequence of the extra drink, or two, is that normal?

My children like a McDonalds but I try to make sure they have fresh, home cooked food as much as possible. Pretty normal right?

I like to put make up on everyday, some days I do a better job than others but everyday involves two children rifling through my bag or clambering over me. Again, normal yes?

My Instagram is trying to be pretty, but my house is a tip, my kids are crazy and my sanity waining. Normal?

My Facebook shows more of an insight into the often difficult reality that is life with two toddlers. Does that make me normal?

I love my children unconditionally but boy do I need some time to myself every now and then. Normal?

I like to try and keep ‘on trend’ but often fail miserably wearing the same old stripy top with snot on my jeans. Does that qualify me as a ‘normal mum?’

I don’t particularly care to have a ‘mum tum’ and try my best to keep it at bay. I am not expecting my pre baby body back, it has changed immeasurable and that is ok, but does wanting to wear a size 10 make me normal?

I still seem to growing lots of weird sprouty baby hairs, on my head, despite not having been pregnant in two years now – someone please tell me that is normal?

But seriously, what the heck is normal?

I like to think there is no such thing. Whether it is tea or champagne that gets you through your tough mothering days. Whether you have to drag your arse to the office or  pretend to enjoy painting your hands at home. Does it really matter? Do any of these things make you a normal mum? And if doesn’t what are you? Are you abnormal? Are you someone who doesn’t need to or deserve to be championed? Because you like things to look a certain way, or costs, or not, a certain amount? Because you might wear a style of clothing over another?

If I am not a normal mum does that make me an abnormal mum?

Make up or no no make up, mum tum or not roots or no roots, SAHM or working mum, whoever you are whatever you do then surely, normal is as normal does to suggest otherwise is well, bordering on insulting. I am not in the business of celebrating the ‘normal’ mum, the yummy mummy, the pulling my hair out in desperation mum or any one kind of mum. Each and every mum has their place and each an every mum should be celebrated, championed and appreciated for they are.

Me Grandma and Auntie

My Grandma, my auntie and me, all of us mums, all of us different all of us normal.

Don’t forget peeps, it’s time to celebrate your mum, and yourself if you are a indeed a mum this Sunday.

Happy Mothers Day you lovely mums!

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34 Comments

  1. March 22, 2017 / 5:04 am

    Awww Sarah Happy Mothers Day to you! This is so lovely. I was just saying in my head reading that, I’m not normal, I’m not normal but I guess we’re all normal just a different kind! Rock on šŸ˜€

  2. March 22, 2017 / 6:42 am

    So true – hope you have a good Mother’s Day #familyfun

  3. March 22, 2017 / 6:45 am

    I LOVE this post. I have no idea whether the things that I do as a mother are ‘normal’ or not – I do my things my way, other mums do them their way, and that’s fine. We’re all normal and abnormal in our own ways, and that should be celebrated. Happy Mother’s Day! #FamilyFun

  4. March 22, 2017 / 7:08 am

    I love this! Definitely no normal mum… We’re all individual and all doing an amazing job as mummy’s! #familyfunlinky

  5. March 22, 2017 / 8:20 am

    Fabulous post! Being a mum is something that belongs to so much of the population that I don’t think it’s possible for there to be a ‘normal’ – there are so many of us! And the fact that we can all do it differently in our own way should definitely be celebrated! #familyfun

  6. March 22, 2017 / 8:33 am

    Ahhh lovely post. Theres no such thing as normal is there? We are all different and doing things our own way which is brilliant. It took me a long time to not care about what other people thought about me and now I couldn’t care less. Happy Mother’s Day to you. I hope you have a lovely day ā˜ŗ #familyfun

  7. March 22, 2017 / 8:42 am

    I love this! You’re very much like me on all of these things, but I’m not sure two of us means we’re normal, but then, normal is such a boring word! #familyfun

  8. March 22, 2017 / 10:01 am

    I’m a sahm, momblogger, wine drinking, toasted cheese eating, happily married mom. Am I normal?
    Great post.
    #familyfun

  9. March 22, 2017 / 10:40 am

    Oh my word I feel so normal that I think I must be abnormal! Some days I don’t even know what I should be doing or what is expected or what is the right thing to do. I do my best and that is all I can do! Love this post and you’re so right. What is normal? Is normal even good? All mums should be celebrated for sure! Hope you have a gorgeous day my lovely xx #FamilyFun

  10. March 22, 2017 / 10:41 am

    What a lovely post to mark Mothers Day. Every Mother is normal and if abnormal has a definition, every Mother is abnormal too. Loved reading it and happy to linkup with #familyfun

  11. March 22, 2017 / 10:53 am

    Normal but not normal boring!. I hope you have a lovely Mother’s day on Sunday. There’s nothing like posting pretty Instagram photos with the reality of a messy house. #FamilyFunLinky

  12. March 22, 2017 / 11:37 am

    I love your line “normal is as normal does” – there’s no such thing as a “normal” mum – we are all so different in our own ways. I definitely agree with you that we all should be celebrated – whatever type of mum we are :-) #familyfun

  13. March 22, 2017 / 1:18 pm

    I love this! I don’t think there is any such thing as normal, but eating too much chocolate and drinking too much wine most definitely is! (And your instagram is stunning)! #FamilyFun

  14. March 22, 2017 / 2:10 pm

    I am sure that I am far from normal- Im good with whatever “this” me is.

    Drinky, swearing, emotionally charged, loving, smart, hard working mama of four girlies!

    #familyfun

  15. March 22, 2017 / 2:11 pm

    What is ‘normal’ anyway? I certainly don’t know (and don’t really care to either)! ha!
    #familyfunlinky

  16. March 22, 2017 / 3:11 pm

    I don’t think there is a normal. Do whatever works for you. Hope you have a lovely mothers day x #familyfun

  17. March 22, 2017 / 3:13 pm

    Great, funny, true! Normality is variable :) #FamilyFunLinky

  18. March 22, 2017 / 7:06 pm

    reading this I’d say your not normal and you should try much harder to be normal for God sake woman šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚

    “normal” doesn’t exist when your a mum.

    Great read. Enjoy your tea or champers on Mothers Day xxx

    #FamilyFunLinky

  19. March 22, 2017 / 8:17 pm

    Love this, it’s so true. What the hell does normal even mean? Every mother, every child, every relationship between the two is different and we are all doing our best. That’s what we should be celebrating x
    #FamilyFun

  20. March 22, 2017 / 8:51 pm

    Happy Mother’s Day #familyfun

  21. March 22, 2017 / 9:30 pm

    Lovely post! I think you have to embrace the mother you are and roll with it. How dull would it be if everyone were the same huh?! Plus, the fact you can share pics of such happy, smiley faces…you must be doing a lot of things right! #FamilyFun

  22. March 22, 2017 / 10:32 pm

    When my kids were small we had a book with the immortal line ‘normal is whatever you are.’ They still quote it even though they’re grown up so it must have made an impression.
    This was a great thought provoking post. Happy Mother’s Day to all the normal mums out there :-)
    #familyfun

  23. March 23, 2017 / 12:28 pm

    All mums should be celebrated, normal or abnormal – we’re all a bit of both, I suppose :)
    Happy Mothers’ Day Sarah!
    #FamilyFun

  24. March 23, 2017 / 1:53 pm

    YES!!! So well put,… there is no “normal” we should all be celebrated and appreciated equally. Thank you for writing this post! #Familyfun

  25. March 23, 2017 / 3:31 pm

    Great post. There is no such thing as normal – we are all just doing the best we can. Happy Mothers Day to you, I hope you have a lovely day on Sunday :) #familyfunlinky

  26. March 24, 2017 / 6:43 pm

    So true everyone is unique on this planet, we are not robots. #FamilyFun

  27. March 24, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Oh Lovely post I think I’m not normal:D is that world exist:D? Happy Mothers Day for you as well :) it will be my first as a Mom! :)
    #FamilyFunLinky

    • Tammymum
      March 24, 2017 / 9:34 pm

      Ooh how exciting! Enjoy lovey xx

  28. March 25, 2017 / 2:22 pm

    Your Instagram IS pretty! There is definitely no such thing as a normal mum (or so I like to believe because I’m certainly not one!) #FamilyFun

  29. March 25, 2017 / 7:09 pm

    I love this! Some days I think I’m relatively normal and some days I think I’m definitely not!! But who cares! Happy Mother’s Day for tomorrow xx #FamilyFun

  30. March 25, 2017 / 7:22 pm

    I’m not sure who has come up with what is expected for normality but each of us is doing a fab job and we need to keep reminding ourselves of that! #familyfunlinky

  31. March 26, 2017 / 10:18 am

    Each and every mum has their place and each an every mum should be celebrated, championed and appreciated for they are. Couldn’t agree more! Thank you for sharing šŸŒŸ #FamilyFun

  32. March 27, 2017 / 10:58 am

    All this is very true – what is normal anyway?!! #familyfunlinky

  33. March 29, 2017 / 8:05 pm

    What a bloody brilliant post. Do you know what? I always always wonder if I am a good mum? If I do what other mums do? Am I a normal mum? You are so right. There is no such thing as a normal mum. We are all the mums we were made to be and each one is precious in their own way. Fist bump to you mama!
    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime