When I started my blog I took a vow of honesty, I always wanted to approach my posts openly and honestly. I intended to tell the truth and shine the light of The Other Side Of Parenting, the sometimes dark side. I didn’t want to sugar coat. As time has passed I have tried to maintain this, largely I believe I have, well I haven’t lied, but what I have learnt along the way is that even this isn’t as black and white as you might think. I am immensely proud of my blog and truly love it. I am however more keenly aware of what I do or more specifically do not want my blog to be…
I don’t want my blog to be…
… a place that causes animosity amongst friends, family and loved ones. It would take the fun out of it and add a darker dimension. I never want someone to be able to throw something I have written in my face. I have debated moaning about the state of affairs that is my life at times but have thought better of it, mostly. After all, those cryptic passive aggressive Facebook statuses that people write about others without naming names, but secretly want the offender to see, really piss me off. LIKE REALLY. Grow up. So I guess I would be no better. I have posts that are borderline, and I have really thought about before I hit publish. Ultimately however if it is not something I would say to you personally it won’t have a place on my blog. Also I believe there are ways to get things off your chest, you can have a good moan and point the finger without being offensive, I do believe it is called tact.
… something that will upset my children. They currently have zero idea what a blog is, they cannot read. One day though they will. If my blog is still live or even archived somewhere they may well be able to read it. Part of the idea behind this blog is for us to have something to look back on. I am aware I have had a good old rant in the past about the trials and tribulations that I find motherhood to be, when things haven’t gone to plan or even had a laugh at my little ones expense. Again, I do believe these are all stories I will share with them when they’re older. I will have no qualms in telling them they didn’t let me sleep for two years and it made me want to pull eyes out. Neither will I think twice about reminding them of the tantrums they have that drive me crazy. The pain in the arse that was weaning or the time my daughter took a massive shit in my grandmas living room. These are said with love and are harmless. As they grow older and develop their own opinion, friends, and peer pressure knocks about I may well have to start censoring myself and the photos I publish and I will just have to be ok with that.
…something that makes me look like a knob. Now bloggers do have a preconception for being self involved or perhaps even braggy. I personally think that is a little unfair and mostly thought by the few who just don’t get the blog culture. That said, I am aware that some posts may come across a certain way, people may jump to certain conclusions about you. Whether it is about your parenting, your life choices, your home, somebody will always have an opinion. I try not to care too much about this as you will never please everyone. Also you have to expect a certain amount of opinion if you do choose to put your life out there for people to see. I have however found myself censoring certain things I might write or pictures I might post on social media or my blog. I am not ashamed but I don’t wish to have to justify myself to anybody. I tend to think if it is not something I would share with an employer, say to someone’s face or be able to cope with the criticism then it won’t have a place on my blog. That is just a personal choice. I admire people who can bear all, explode their deepest emotion onto the page for everyone to pick at or post the picture they truly want irrespective of torrent of shit that may come their way. They are strong and fearless and I aspire to have your courage.
… a sell out. Make no bones about it, I accept paid work. I will write sponsored posts and review items that are gifted to me. I have no problem admitting that, in fact, I am proud of it. The only thing I have become conscious of is accepting every offer that lands in my inbox. For me, there has to be some relevance or interest, or at least something I think I could do justice to.
How about you? What is your approach to your blog? Are you a no holes barred blogger? The censored type? Do you care about other people opinions or trolls you may encounter? What do you want your blog to be or not be? I would love to hear from you.