Sometimes It’s All About The Little Things.

Sometimes It’s All About The Little Things.

They say things come in threes, well I have had my three recently, and then another three. I wrote about the week from hell, that was a fall, a chemical reaction in our shower and an unexpected colposcopy. All by Wednesday. So there was that – that was my three.

Or not.

Our oven broke, or is broken. I know in the grand scheme of things it’s not a big deal but when you can’t cook waffles and fish fingers shit suddenly gets serious. We are now 5 days into a no oven situation and my slow cooker ideas are waning. Also Christmas is getting closer and I am cooking, hopefully not a microwaved dinner.

We also still have two broken showers. In some cruel twist of fate, we have two shiny new working showers neither with a complete set of fitments, we are 48 hours into fitting said showers and no further forward.

Oh and a couple of nights ago this happened…

fire in back garden

… Our neighbour decided to have a BBQ, yes BBQ, and struggled to get it lit. So ya know when faced with such a situation petrol is always the solution right? Wrong. Said petrol can set my lovely neighbour’s hand on fire, he then threw the petrol can down his garden, only it landed in our garden, setting fire to some conifer trees. Turns out confer trees are like kindling to a fire so the fact it was damp out was irrelevant. Cue big fire in our back garden. We did get fireman out to our house and I got to play around with a thermal imaging camera, so it wasn’t all bad. We are however down 4 very big and lovely confer trees and two fence panels. Hmpf.

All these things are starting to add up to be a giant pain in the arse, it is also going on whilst there is a giant bloody black cloud lurking over my head as I check the post daily for the potential C word diagnoses following on from the unexpected colposcopy. Truth be told, that’s the biggest pain in arse.

With all this crap whirling around it has made me stop and take stock. Made me appreciate some of the little things that bring something good to the day, because amongst all this nonsense there is good and here it is;

I got to be the mum you all hate, the mum who went on a spa day, and had a massages, facial the works. I went with my hilarious brummie bestie so not only did someone stroke my face with fancy oils, we had a giggle too. Admittedly whilst naked under a blanket after being tucked in by a stranger but hey I’ll take that.  IF that’s not something to be thankful for then I don’t know what is. #sorrynotsorry.

My little boy has started walking, like really walking, needs shoes and everything. He has just turned 17 months and I cannot tell you how happy I am to see him on his feet. He has been aching to follow his sister round, to run with her, to go where he wants when he wants. Granted he actually runs the opposite way to his sister and I am left deciding who to run after first and when I ask him to come here he goes the opposite way but still it makes me smile from the inside out.

I have had family visiting, Nanny Pat came and stayed with us, and we also had a visit from Grandma Barbie and my Auntie and Uncle. We spent the day traipsing round Birmingham’s shops, Christmas Markets, and well, bars. It was perfect. Not so perfect the next day however…

I have also been sent these beautiful cakes from Cake Toppers. They are gorgeous inside and out, I had a sponge cake and chocolate cake. The chocolate was my favourite but then chocolate always is. I was not expecting the thick layer of chocolate frosting – THANK YOU FOR THAT! They were light, soft and delicious, with a perfect personalised touch. I sat during nap time with a cup of coffee and just enjoyed my cake and coffee quietly, alone. This simple thing meant so blooming much to me. Cake toppers are a brilliant company who offer tasty well made cakes and cup cakes. They’d make the perfect gift, birthday cake or treat for anyone. They offer a range of pre made designs from Disney to Peppa to Christmas. Alternatively you can choose your own photo or design. Here’s mine.

tammymum cake topper

So despite a few hiccups in our world at the moment and some serious denting to our pockets it hasn’t been all bad. Finding the funny in the bad and appreciating the little things, the good things, the happy that we might otherwise take for granted. It’s my way to get through any bump in the road, and it’s working.

What about you? How have things been for you? Are you going through any bad times? Have you got some good to focus on too? I’d love to hear from you.

Diary of an imperfect mum


  1. December 13, 2016 / 4:41 pm

    Gosh sarah you’ve definitely been on a roller coaster! Hope you manage to get an oven in time for Christmas!! X

  2. December 13, 2016 / 8:47 pm

    Sending lots of virtual hugs and hope the post, oven and showers are all sorted in the next few days with positive outcomes xxxx

  3. December 13, 2016 / 9:32 pm

    Oh geezz…you can’t catch a break. That spa day was prescription toward a better and happier 2017. So glad you got to do it and get some much deserved pampering. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year to you and your family. See you in 2017.

    • tammymum
      December 15, 2016 / 8:58 pm

      Thank you lovey. Have a lovely Christmas too and happy new year xx

  4. December 14, 2016 / 9:49 pm

    Blimey you have had some real disasters and some lovely moments too. We got to try caketoppers too and can vouch for their wonderful deliciousness.#mg

  5. December 15, 2016 / 8:58 am

    Oh crikey – I am seriously not going to moan about anything today. You are being an absolute trooper – I honestly don’t know how you are doing it. It is true that we need to big up the little things, so that we can get through the big shit. Sending many, many positive vibes for you to get through and hope for a positive result. Alison x #ablogginggoodtime

  6. December 15, 2016 / 7:41 pm

    Yikes – you’ve had your fair share of pains in the arse lately! But nothing makes things better like cake – and your wee man walking, of course! I’m sure he’s so pleased that he can chase his sister around now. #ablogginggoodtime

  7. December 15, 2016 / 7:57 pm

    God hun. I have everything crossed for you. I have just had a very very massive scare myself and it totally threw me off kilter. I am now counting my lucky blessings too. Have a good Christmas lovely. Thinking of you! ❤️ #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

  8. December 15, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    Goodness – you have had a rough old week or so – really hope things are on the up for you from now on. Your strategies for coping are very in keeping with Mindfulness principles. I keep a gratitude log to try and remind myself of the little things in life that are to be appreciated – I find it really helps when things are feeling a bit overwhelming. Take care. #ablogginggoodtime xx

  9. December 16, 2016 / 2:53 pm

    Wow! It never rains but it pours! I hope you get your oven fixed and the news from the Dr is good.

    Ever since we moved into our new house I’m in a constant state of wondering what will go wrong next. So far we’ve had a kitchen flood, had to replace all of the integrated appliances, had to have the boiler fixed 3 times and had to replace all the hard wired fire alarms. But it’s a beautiful house and I’m sure one day we will have replaced everything breakable 😀

  10. December 16, 2016 / 9:00 pm

    Learning to dance through the storms is such a good way to look at things and really taking time to appreciate the little things can certainly help give you a good glowing feeling.

    I hope nothing else untoward happens now, that sounds like quite enough and I really hope the very best for you with your colposcopy results. Sending you happy thoughts, positive vibes and certainly no bbqs!! xx


  11. December 17, 2016 / 5:19 am

    Hoping by the time I send this comment you have had a good result in the mail! Sending positive vibes your way!

    I have to say I love how your saw the bright side of the burning tree disaster! Fireman are just so gorgeous in uniform, yummy!

    Thanks so much for being part of the #mg linky xx

  12. December 18, 2016 / 2:55 pm

    Sounds like you deserve a super-duper and issue free Christmas this year. I hope things improve from now on. Also, thinking of you as you await your results. I hope it’s nothing serious.

    Also, yay on the walking boy! It must indeed have invoked some mixed emotions as you now have to chase two. But it really starts to bring out the proper personality in a child when they can roam free!

  13. January 4, 2017 / 11:51 am

    I hope things got better and the oven was fixed in time for Christmas! Happy new year! #ablogginggoodtime