#MeetTheFamily…The PHD Mama

#MeetTheFamily…The PHD Mama

Hello there and welcome to the latest instalment of my series #MeetTheFamily. It is a spin off from our linky #FamilyFun. You may know that #FamilyFun is a linky where you can link up any blog post with the idea of it being a fun linky where you share your posts, comments and love with your blogging family. This post is all about getting to know our blogging family a bit better. So without further ado I will introduce you to this weeks member:

The PHD Mama

I have been introduced to Suchitra’s blog through our linky and it has quickly become one of my favourite reads. I love reading about Suchitra’s multi-cultural life, the way in which they are bring up their children to be so and her always intelligent perceptions on life and motherhood. She writes in such a professional and articulate way I can’t help but be interested in what she has to say, I think it is fair to say her well suited career radiates into her blog. Wow I sound like such a fan girl, but there if the boot fits and all that… So guys, please share some love and head over to give Suchitra’s blog a visit. Now over to you Suchi

1.Tell us a little bit about yourself, who you are, your blog and what we can expect from your blog?

My name is Suchitra and I used to be a professor of Communication Studies in Chicago in the US but had to resign from my job and don the cape of a stay-at-home-mom after we moved to Silicon Valley in California. Originally from India, I have been living in the US since 2001. I married my Canadian husband a few years ago and we have two multiracial kids, a two-year-old son and a 7-month-old daughter.

I started my blog just before the birth of my son to document my experiences as a new mom and to have a virtual library of memories to return to years later. Lately, the blog has evolved into the journaling of my struggles and other adventures as a stay-at-home-mom.

As the blog continues to get a life of its own, you can expect it to have posts that reflect my kids’ varied age-appropriate interests, lessons from my every day experiences with them, some creative writing on parenting topics as well as some research driven posts, and perhaps even my complete acceptance of my SAHM identity.

I go where the blog takes me.

 

2. When your not blogging, how do you fill your time – are you a working parent, SAHP, WAHP? When your not working what do you like to do for fun?
When I am not blogging, I am engaging in everyday awesomeness with my kids. We do story time at our local libraries, visit our zoo, the children’s museum, the many parks and playgrounds around town, attend music classes, and do grocery shopping. I call my kids my entourage. Where I go, they go ☺.

Otherwise, we are simply at home, baking, painting, making a mess, yelling (I am, that is), crying (either one of the kids or all of us at some point), screaming (with joy mostly), crashing cars, destroying train tracks, and jumping in muddy puddles right outside our home on rare rainy days (California is in a drought).

I am a homebody. I like to stay in and watch Netflix or videos on Google Play or Amazon. I do enjoy reading when I have the energy to focus. I have every intention of joining a gym soon and proudly declare to whoever asks that, THAT (going to the gym) is what I like to do for fun (gives self an eye roll).

3. How long have you been blogging and what is your favourite and least favourite thing about it?

I had a blog way back in 2003 when most people didn’t even know what that was. Since then I’ve started and deleted many blogs. I kept one throughout my graduate school and really glad I stuck with it. This current one, my favorite, is one I hope to focus on long-term.

My favorite thing about blogging is that it is my space to understand myself better. I often need to write things down and let the words I write tell me how I feel, especially when I am trying to make sense of complicated emotions, as a parent or otherwise. I find blogging cathartic.

My least favorite thing is the promoting. Sometimes I wish I could just write something and the Universe would find it and flood it with readers and comments with zero effort from me. Though, the positive outcome of promoting is that I do get to virtually meet my tribe of like-minded writers and bloggers and build my own little community. So, it’s not all bad.

4. If you could pass on a piece of advice to a newbie blogger what would it be?

Find your voice or voices and always remain authentic. It is easy to get swayed into writing about and doing posts for publicity, promotions, sponsorships, and so on, but if it does not represent who you are, why you started your blog, and disrespects your readers, don’t do it.

I have also been thinking about this recently that – Even if you think it is, blogging is not your entire world, it is only a part of the magnificent real world about which you write in a space that just happens to be your blog. I have to remind myself of this when I get a blogger’s block or wallow in self-doubt over something I wrote, am writing, or may write.

5. If money were no issue, and you could tick one thing off your bucket list what would it be and why?

If money is not an issue…hmm…and this may change, but for now, it is to buy a house with enough bedrooms that each of the kids and us parents can all have our own rooms, a den/library for myself, a creativity/activity room for the family so our messes can be somewhat contained, enough living space to have extended family and friends over, and a backyard with a garden that has avocado and persimmon trees (lemon and orange trees are a bonus), lovely grass on which to play and get silly, some concrete for the kids to ride their tricycles, enough space for a grill, table and chairs to enjoy sitting outside and enjoy the amazing California weather.

People may think we lead glamorous lives surrounded by the Googles, Facebooks, and Apples of the world but housing in Silicon Valley is ridiculously unaffordable. Sigh.


6. Can you share some love and tell us what blogs you are enjoying at the moment and that you would recommend?

I read a variety of blogs on themes ranging from parenting to poetry to fiction to immigrant experiences. I like blogs that go beyond diary entries and are reflective of parenting or life experiences presented with seriousness or humor…the style of presentation does not matter as much as the honesty of the content. There is something very refreshing about that.

As you know, there are many British Mom Bloggers I enjoy reading and thank you all for introducing me to slices of life I can only experience vicariously. I really don’t want to play favorites but I will say that I like reading your (Sarah’s) blog at TammyMum and Karen’s blog at TwoTinyHands. I also think you are both quite exemplary in how you host the #familyfun linky and encourage new bloggers.

In continuing to share the love and extending the community, I would like to mention some non-British bloggers I like reading. My current favorites are Lakshmi Iyer’s blog at https://lgiyer.com where she writes about being a mother through adoption and biology, among other things (but is currently on a November writing hiatus); Shailaja Vishwanath’s Diary of a Doting Mother, and Hema’s Mixed Bag for short pieces of fiction.
You can find The PHD Mama at the following:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thephdmama/

Twitter: https://.twitter.com/ThePhDMama

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thephdmama/

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31 Comments

  1. November 9, 2016 / 7:04 am

    Always lovely to read other people’s stories and find new blogs. #familyfun

  2. November 9, 2016 / 9:15 am

    Love finding new blogs. What an amazing lady. #familyfun

  3. November 9, 2016 / 10:05 am

    I love reading these kinds of post about other bloggers lives #FamilyFun

  4. November 9, 2016 / 10:26 am

    Lovely to learn more about Suchitra. I read her blog regularly and really enjoy her take on things. #familyfun

  5. November 9, 2016 / 11:19 am

    Wow what a cool mama! I love your thoughts on blogging: it is NOT your life, it’s just a fun part of it. Power to you! I hope you get that lovely house too, we live in London and life always seems glam but housing is just so damn expensive, it’s hard to imagine ever having all those bedrooms! Great to “meet” you :)

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you. Lovely to meet you too.
      I know the feeling – I keep looking at homes for sale online but get dejected every single time. One day…

  6. November 9, 2016 / 12:30 pm

    Love to hear the stories behind the blogger. Thanks for sharing :) #familyfun

  7. November 9, 2016 / 12:40 pm

    It sounds like you have a really interesting perspective – I can’t wait to read more of your blog! #familyfun

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you. I enjoy reading your posts too.

  8. November 9, 2016 / 2:01 pm

    Wow what a fascinating lady! I’m a SAHM too so it’s always nice to hear about someone else who is. I’m totally with you on the frustrations of having to promote your blog – I’m not a pushy person at all, so I hate the whole “hey, look at me” thing. #FamilyFun

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:27 pm

      Aww…thank you. Right there, with you.

  9. November 9, 2016 / 4:51 pm

    Yay for Suchitra! I’m a bog fan, great to hear more about you :) #FamilyFun

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:28 pm

      You are too kind. I love reading about your adventures on this side of the Universe too :)

  10. November 9, 2016 / 6:48 pm

    Chicago! My second home :) What a wonderfully answered set of questions, I really enjoyed hearing about what you do. A xx #FamilyFun

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:29 pm

      Oh really? I love Chicago. I had some of the better years of my life here…so many, many, memories.
      Thank you.

  11. November 9, 2016 / 7:58 pm

    I like sarah have discovered Suchitras blog via our linky and I think she really is a marvellous writer and I always enjoy her writing. How kind xxx

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:30 pm

      Aww…thanks, Karen. You are pretty fab yourself.

  12. November 9, 2016 / 8:23 pm

    I look forward to following Suchitra. She mentioned one thing that truly resonated with me: finding your voice and remaining true to it. I began my blog for the purpose of earning some supplemental income, but it has become something entirely different. While I still hope to monetize my blog successfully, I have also come to understand that there is a lot to be said for probing into yourself and writing honestly. Once I have built a solid framework, then my wish is to work with only companies/brands that are true to MY brand.

    Thank you for sharing Suchitra’s story!
    #familyfun

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:32 pm

      Hi, it’s nice to meet a fellow mom from the US. Following you too :)

  13. November 9, 2016 / 11:02 pm

    I love Suchi’s blog and am so happy to have found it through #FamilyFun. I love finding out more about the bloggers that I read on a daily basis! #FamilyFun

  14. November 10, 2016 / 12:38 am

    wow what an intelligent, insightful and fun lady, I will check her blog out for sure, I agree we have to have our own voice. #familyfun

  15. November 10, 2016 / 6:38 am

    I found Suchitr’a Blog 2 months back and is now in my regular reading list. Its great to know about her daily Life. Thanks Sarah.

  16. November 10, 2016 / 1:46 pm

    Another good read, the answers rung true to me about being a SAHM and all screaming or crying together hahha!
    #familyfun

  17. November 10, 2016 / 3:35 pm

    So nice to get to know more about Suchitra. I’ve read quite a few of her posts over the last few months and I find it really interesting to hear from a mum over the other side of the Atlantic. It sounds like she has a great time with her kids and I love her chilled out attitude. Also, her dream house sounds amazing. Suchitra – when you finally get it, be sure to invite us all over. We could all use a bit on sunshine right now! #FamilyFun

    • November 11, 2016 / 3:35 pm

      I had to smile that you thought I had a “chilled out attitude” because I am anything but. Happy though that at least my writing here did not come across as being neurotic and anxiety-prone as I feel sometimes.
      And you are definitely invited whenever I get that house. You bring the wine, I’ll get the cheese (and persimmons). Ha ha

  18. November 10, 2016 / 9:25 pm

    Another great instalment. I love Suchitra’s take on the blog/life balance x
    #FamilyFun

  19. November 11, 2016 / 3:44 pm

    I love this series. It’s so lovely to read about other bloggers. It’s nice to get to know more about Suchitra and I look forward to reading more of her blog.
    #familyfun

  20. November 11, 2016 / 7:54 pm

    I find reading about other bloggers really interesting. #FamilyFun

  21. November 13, 2016 / 7:17 am

    Oh I’m going to check this blog out. Thanks for introducing it to me! #Familyfun

  22. November 16, 2016 / 4:37 pm

    Thanks for introducing us to the Phd Mama! Another blogger to follow moving forward!
    I’ve been lately struggling with self promoting in blogging so it was good to see that I’m not the only one! :)
    #familyfun (sorry for the late comment!)