Why I don’t have a designer home (yet).

Why I don’t have a designer home (yet).

Like many bloggers I love household interiors. I love making things look pretty or stylish, well in my head or on Pinterest anyway. I read too many beautiful blog posts about the most recent colour scheme, or stylish home office and I am envious. Their houses look beautiful. I am guilty of watching too much Grand Designs, Homes Under the Hammer or anything with Sarah Beeny. I love looking at how people have converted, decorated and styled their homes. So why is mine a far cry from the glossy double page spread in House and Home? Why when I have all these ideas and plans are they confined to my Pinterest account?

Well, I am sat at my dining room table and I look around and I can see, two toy ride on cars, a little tykes car, an activity table, a toy kitchen with accompanying food sprawled across the floor, dolls, a toy hoover – you get the idea. It doesn’t end there, if you were to take a walk around the rooms of the house you will no doubt find a trail of raisins, sippy cups, kiddies shoes, clothes and more bloody toys.  In fact I just opened the door to a delivery driver bringing yet another plastic monstrosity. Our home is overrun and overtaken by the small people. You will also most likely come across a basket of washing that needs putting away, a basket of washing that needs putting on and a dishwasher that needs emptying and refilling – to name but a few undone chores.

Now I know there are plenty of bloggers out there, who like me have two (or more) tiny humans to take care of all day everyday and still manage to turn out the most beautiful Pinterest worthy home. I salute you and I am nothing short of jealous. What is your secret?

For my part however, with a just turned two year old and one year old – two little people with 11 months between them, it takes all I have to get us through the day in one piece. Our days start circa 6am and I do not sit or stop until their bed time at 7pm. The day is ruled by satisfying hunger, thirst, tiredness, tantrums, boredom, dirty nappies, dirty babies. Doing the endless cycle of washing, drying, tidying, vacuuming,  sweeping up the floor after every meal time because the small ones are just that messy. Not that it ever much looks like these things have been done – before you say it Mr Tammy.

our exposed brick fireplace, surrounded by toys

See, we have the makings, fancy exposed brick fireplace…surrounded by metal saftey guard and plastic toy after plastic toy…sty-lish!

Squeezing in casual browsing of John Lewis, purchasing wall hangings and deciding on colours and themes, well its not up there in the survival mode we seem to be in at the moment. It is there for a few hours of an evening via the wonder that is the world wide web, whilst I am also blogging, catching up on emails and I don’t know, having my own dinner and conversing with Mr Tammy.

It is a shame as both Mr Tammy and I have said we love our home have  and it could be so much more than it is but we are reluctant to spend time and money on beautiful things that the toddler baby combo will draw on, vomit in or probably wee on. We also don’t want to be on their case all the time not to ‘mark the furniture’ or stress about the chocolate that will be inevitably dropped somewhere. It’s OK though, we brought our house with this in mind. It was decorated to a nice standard when we moved in – that was part of the reason we bought it.

We are slowly starting to make our imprint. We have tackled the teenage den loft conversion and spoke with a builder about the dream kitchen, diner, living area extension. Room by room, or rather, part of the room by part of the room we will transform and style up our home to the way in which we have chosen. Hopefully my Pinterest account will start to display boards of actual designs and interiors that we have chosen and not just my fanciful imaginings stored there at the moment. For now i’ll live in awe of all you amazing mummy bloggers with beautiful homes, I’ll post about the ideas I have and rooms I am ticking off the list but most importantly i’ll concentrate on getting us through the day. 

Diary of an imperfect mum


  1. September 7, 2016 / 3:48 am

    I have two little ones also 1 and 2, with 14 months in between. I completely understand where you are coming from. Someday hubby and I will own a nice not kid proof cabin with all the adult extras and no baby gates!

  2. September 7, 2016 / 7:11 am

    I have an almost 3 year old and I crave order. I’m an everything in its place kind of person which I’ve obviously had to abandon since little one came along. Id love to say it’ll all level out and we’ll have our perfect home back some day but I hear teenagers are just as bad hah #familyfun

  3. September 7, 2016 / 7:40 am

    I’m desperate to move house and I have loads of interior ideas. But you’re right, my current house is overrun by my baby so I suppose a new one would be too! #familyfun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:37 pm

      hehe more than likely eh, no matter how hard you try those plastic toys get everywhere! Thanks for your comment lovey

  4. September 7, 2016 / 7:48 am

    My blog would tell you that I have a nice pinterest worthy home – the reality is that I have a total tidy blitz before taking photos! Our living room is definitely full of brightly coloured plastic all over the place. And I’m guilty of neglecting the kitchen and bathroom simply because I hate them and they are going to be replaced – the problem is, that plan is years off and they’re getting worse and worse because I hate them! #familyfun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:35 pm

      Ha, yes all my house pictures involve a quick blitz too – the reality is oh so different. I can relate to that there are so many things I want to do but like you say, it is so far off that the space in the interim is lacking in the love and attention it needs! Sigh. Thanks for your comment lovey xx

  5. September 7, 2016 / 8:26 am

    I love the pic of all the kids toys, when they are that age it is a given that our world is filled with plastic! I have seen amazing images of little kids bedrooms that are all neutral and have just one or two stylish wooden toys, in reality I feel sad looking at them, I mean what chid can truly feel inspired by that? I have a beautiful home na sit is easier now that the youngest is 6, nearly 7. But we still have toys and loads of games. For me it is all about creating spaces that are beautiful, yet also inspire and nurture us. I did a Vlog about it just the other day it’s on my website called What is a Home? If you’d like to check it out. But for me it is about each of us having a space that is about us. A child’s room needs to be a place they feel safe and yet inspired to be who they are and to create. And we need spaces like that too. In reality children want to and should want to be around us, so we can’t expect toys not to appear in our living areas and even our bedroom lol, but we can create beautiful spaces still. I just find having flowers around helps me. Trust me it gets easier once they start to grow out of those big plastic items, and then we miss our toddlers, it really does all go to quick! #familyfun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:32 pm

      Thank you for such a great comment, I will definitely head over and check out that Vlog. You’re right I know I should enjoy it because I will miss it when its gone and I wouldn’t want them shut away in their bedrooms. Thats a fab tip too about the flowers. I love flowers and certainly don’t eve have enough! Thanks again for your comment xx

  6. September 7, 2016 / 9:57 am

    oh the huge plastic toys everywhere that are too big for a cupboard so you can NEVER hide them away – that changes though lovely and with that the children become a little older and you can start to think about things for you a little more – love all your ideas and enthusiasm and that you already have a teenage den! #FamilyFun

  7. September 7, 2016 / 12:54 pm

    haha, I totally know where you’re coming from with this. My boys are 12 and 7 and I still refuse to decorate while they’re prone to spillages and jumping on the furniture. I dream of having my perfect home, but I’ll probably be older than 60 by the time I have it. And even then I’ll be fretting about the grandkids marking furniture!! 😉

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:24 pm

      haha yes probably! I don’t want to decorate and have plush things and then stress about it getting ruined, it’ll be no fun for the kids either if I am on their case all the time. So looks like it’ll be a messy toy haven for the foreseeable eh. Thanks for your comment x

  8. September 7, 2016 / 2:51 pm

    Oh god hun, it all takes time. It was ages before I got my front room back. We had the ikea toy storage things downstairs when the boys were little. Now I have a posh cupboard and I can shut the doors and lock away the toys and games. But believe me it took us a very long time to get there. Enjoy the toy shop interior design as it won’t last long…#FamilyFun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:19 pm

      Ah yes that is true one day it’ll be confined to their rooms, along with them and I will miss the mess and noise! Thank you for your comment lovey xx

    • September 14, 2016 / 12:18 pm

      Popping back to say Thank you for linking up to #ablogginggoodtime 🎉

  9. September 7, 2016 / 3:36 pm

    I was actually thinking exactly the same yesterday while cleaning the whole flat. No way the Frenchie household will ever be featured on Elle Decor or some other magazine like that! But I always strongly thought that a house is made to be lived in, not looked immaculate at all times, especially with a baby or kids! Great post! #FamilyFun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:17 pm

      Amen to that – where the kids are involved it will never be picture perfect but would I want it to be? Probably not, I wouldn’t want them to be so worried about spillages and mess that it takes the fun out of things! Thanks for you comment lovey x

  10. September 7, 2016 / 4:24 pm

    AMEN. We have four littles and I do get frustrated at the mountains of plastic toys and scratches on the walls. We have definitely worked hard these past few years on renovating and decorating so we are getting there but I don’t know if I will ever feel “done.” I am sure if I ever do get to that point- I will decide to move and start over!

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:10 pm

      Haha thats the problem isn’t, always wanting a task! Wow 4, goodness you must have your own shop of toys, my house is bad enough with 2! Thank you for you comment lovey x

  11. September 7, 2016 / 7:19 pm

    Before Squeak was born I actually said “we won’t have one of those homes, filled with baby’s clutter in every room. That’s what their bedroom is for.” Fast forward a few months and Squeak’s toys fill up EVERY room. Except the utility room which is filled with his clothes drying. Great post! #familyfun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:07 pm

      ooooh I hear ya, I was the same. Famous last words eh! Thanks for your comment lovey xx

  12. September 7, 2016 / 7:24 pm

    I posted something similar about my home not long ago – its messy full of toys and pictures etc but do you know what – I love it. It’s messy but its ours – our girls feel comfortable in there. It is a family home. There will be a time when our children are older and have flew the nest and we can have our pinterest worthy homes – but I bet you all we will be thinking is I wish the kids were still here making a mess!!! #familyfun

    • tammymum
      September 7, 2016 / 8:05 pm

      Ha yes you very right, I will have plenty of time to have an orderly house. For now I’ll enjoy the mess and the comfort that I hope my kids find in it too! Thanks for your comment lovey xx

  13. September 7, 2016 / 8:30 pm

    I would love my house to look immaculate, even just for a day. It’s like some sort of unobtainable dream. I have 3 children – 10, 7 and 13 months. A few more years before my dream becomes reality. A x

  14. September 7, 2016 / 9:16 pm

    Kids really do take over your house and their stuff is everywhere! My house looks like a tornado has blown through most days! Still we can dream of the day when perfection is achieved – though I’m sure we will miss the little handprints on the glass and raisin trails. #familyfun

  15. September 8, 2016 / 6:53 am

    Your lounge looks very similar to mine, even down to the fireplace! What can I say I’ve spent the last four and half years keeping my son alive. House decor was low low low on my list of priorities, especially as he spent so much time in the house just waiting to mess it all up again! But he starts school in a few weeks and my plan is to start decluttering his toys and maybe even paint a few rooms to freshen them up. The poor house has been through it, just like I have. We’re both emerging from a storm of baby and toddlerhood!
    Oh and PS I don’t believe anyone with small children actually has pinterest worthy houses. You don’t see what’s going on *behind* the camera, remember that! #SharingtheBlogLove

  16. September 8, 2016 / 10:23 am

    We recently redecorated our living room and banished all the toys to the kids bedrooms and it’s been so much tidier since, I wouldn’t say Pinterest worthy though, haha! The rest of the house is a mess! x #coolmumclub

  17. September 8, 2016 / 10:29 am

    I really sympathise with you, I have been in this situation for years! But now I have a 5 and 3 year old, I feel like the end is (maybe) in sight… Of course we still have all the toys but I am contemplating a new sofa.. but too scared just yet as it will inevitably get drawn on. We’ll get there one day!! #coolmumclub

  18. September 8, 2016 / 1:49 pm

    Lol my home in like a wanna be designer home fused with a trash fest..never mind there will be plenty of time for it when we are old and having nothing better to do with our time lol! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely xx

  19. September 8, 2016 / 6:51 pm

    I have to say, its an ongoing daily challenge to keep our house looking half decent. Your day sounds very much like mine at the moment! I feel like I am forever tidying up and whilst I am happy with the way house looks for the most part, it is very much a shell since we renovated it after moving in last spring. I too have pinterest dreams that I am very slowly inching towards with the hope that I may finally finish decorating it whilst im on maternity leave! Emily #FamilyFun

  20. September 8, 2016 / 7:08 pm

    I love Pinterest and too dream of what my home could look like. xx

  21. September 8, 2016 / 9:23 pm

    Oh, I’m so with you! We moved house last year when our daughter was about 7 months, and we had so many big ideas about decorating and furnishing it. In 15 months we have managed to paint the dining room. That is all.

    In my case, it’s not just finding the time to do it, it’s also finding a bit of space in my head to actually think about how I want the house to look, or what furniture would suit each room. Hopefully this house will be our ‘forever home’ (as they say on Location Location Location!), so we’ll have a good few years to get it looking nice! #familyfun

  22. September 9, 2016 / 1:48 pm

    My house looks like some one has ram raided a toy shop. Toys everywhere ! I dream of cream carpets & pretty curtains instead of wipe clean plastic & brown carpet.#FamilyFun

  23. September 10, 2016 / 6:25 am

    I feel your pain. In fact I had such an aversion to the sinking ELC hole we come to live in, that we hoped sticks and moves to the suburbs- where we turned the dining room into the toy dumping ground. Obviously this doesn’t stop the spread of cr*p all over the house BUT when it comes to nursery time or bedtime I hurl their haul into that room and shit the door. Satisfied smile every time!!
    You just need a dumping ground and you’ll be magazine worthy in no time.
    Love your fireplace by the way: exposed brick is my weakness!!
    Big love, L

  24. September 10, 2016 / 3:21 pm

    Oh how I wish I had a Pinterest house! I struggle to keep up with everything that needs doing. As fast as I’m on top of things, something happens that puts me back at the start again. I tell myself it won’t be forever and the time will come it won’t be like this. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove X

  25. September 10, 2016 / 3:46 pm

    Oh I know just how you feel. I would love a beautiful home but ours resembles a nursery more than a family home. There are toys everywhere, seriously they’re in every room! Good luck creating your stylish home..however long it takes!x #familyfun

  26. September 11, 2016 / 8:39 am

    I love reading your home improvement ideas and plans posts. Like you we have two little ones and I would love to have a real pinterest home. Sadly, we have too much mess! #KCACOLS

  27. September 11, 2016 / 12:57 pm

    You never know what’s behind the camera though do you?! I suspect 90% of people with small kids have a lounge full of plastic (wood looks nicer but costs more, damages things more when thrown and doesn’t wipe down as easily!!!) and boxes of washing lying around. I for one do at the moment… But kids aren’t small forever. As they get older you’ll be able to spend more time on your home. But you’re quite right that it’s nice not to have to worry about things getting damaged now and then. One of my friends was devastated when her 4 year old scratched the front of their dishwasher. I don’t need that kind of stress 😉 #KCACOLS

  28. September 11, 2016 / 7:29 pm

    Just stopping by again to say thanks so much for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove (and also that as I’m typing this, our living room is covered by an epic brio train track that my husband and my son have built and that apparently cannot under any circumstances be dismantled. Sigh….)

  29. September 12, 2016 / 10:35 am

    I know how you feel. I can’t wait for the day when we can claim our living room back. Thanks for linking to #KCACOLS
    Hope to see you again next week.

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

  30. September 14, 2016 / 8:35 am

    We’re just about to buy a real fixer-upper of a house which needs an extension and every room gutting. As you can imagine my blog-dar is going crazy with unachievable ideas of a Pin-worthy home within 6 months. Bwaaaaaah, I’ll be lucky to have even changed the locks by next Christmas…still, we are nothing without optimism #KCACOLS

  31. September 16, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    Yes two little ones are the reason I haven’t got the Grand Designs type home of my dreams! What’s the point when it’s all going to be covered by crayons anyway?! #KCACOLS