The right time to have a baby?

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It seems I am at ‘that age’. My Facebook page is full of weddings and new babies. Graduation photos have subsided, travelling photos diminished and boozy all nighters with mates are becoming few and far between. Instead I am marvelling at wonderful wedding gowns, fancy dinners shared with a loved one and keys to home ownership. Everyone around me seems to be moving to the next chapter.

It got me thinking, these people are my peers, my age give or take a year or two, and a lot of them seem to be doing similar things. So is there a right age or time? A right age to marry? settle down, have a baby?

I have read over the years and discussed this with various people and there seems to be a consensus that 25 is the ‘right’ age to have a baby. **Ddisclaimer – this has not come from a scientific study nor is it in any way fact**. Anyway, yippee, I was 25 when fell pregnant with my first, I have done something ‘right’ I have finally ticked a socially acceptable box, conformed, got it spot on. Hmm. Really?

 

baby's feet

 

If you were to ask Mr Tammy I think he would agree. You see to his mind, I have youth on my side. The sleepless nights in your twenties don’t take their toll in the same way, you can re-bound quicker, you don’t struggle as much the next day. Hmm. Make no mistake they still take their toll. You are still earth shatteringly exhausted when you are existing on 4 hours broken sleep. Yet Mr Tammy, who is a little older than myself, proclaims that the night shift is harder for him because he is ‘older‘ and ‘it is his second time around‘, he ‘cant cope with it‘ like he used to. Hmm. OK having come out of the majority of the sleepless night trauma that is the early baby days, I have no desire to go back. Perhaps I would find it harder having spent 10 years having blissful sleep to be pulled back into new baby insomnia 10 years older than my 20 something self. I don’t know. Although it certainly wouldn’t be a deal breaker.

Having had some twenty-five years prior to those two blue lines appearing on that white stick, I was lucky enough to have indulged in a fair bit of travel. I had frequented several continents, had some beautiful holidays and even lived abroad for a short period. I haven’t however seen everything I wanted to see and experienced everything I want to experience. Mr TM and I had several ‘big’ holidays planned the year we found out we were expecting a little baba. We were going to Hong Kong and Thailand and then Cuba. Places neither of us had been but somewhere I desperately wanted to. These trips were put on hold, and remain that way. I have visited them via my childless friends on Facebook, but for now the reality is as many miles away as the countries themselves.

Me on Coteslow beach in Perth Western Australia

Me on Coteslow beach in Perth Western Australia

I was however able to finish my studies pre babies, I went to university, obtained a first class law degree, completed my Legal Practice Course, got a job in said field and started to build on my career. I worked hard in the years post university. I had started to make head way into my field, I ran important cases to trial and was trusted with hundreds of thousands of pounds. I had in fact just secured a much sought after promotion when BANG pregnant. Cue time off, absence from the office, the working world, which continues to move on and evolve whilst I change nappies and battle breastfeeding. Being only 25 my career was far from where I wanted it be. I still had many a step on ladder to climb. Had I been in my thirties when we started our family then perhaps I would have been able to call myself ‘Associate’ perhaps I would have been more established and taking the time out to raise my family wouldn’t have had such a detrimental impact on my career? Perhaps financially my position would have been better than it was at 25.

me and grandparents on myb graduation

My grandparents and I at my graduation

There are many things I haven’t yet done that I cannot do for some time yet. Yes my youth may help me get up in the middle of night, time and time again. It may make climbing up and down the stairs twenty billion time a day and night, often with two babies in my arms easier. Yet my youth had its draw backs too. There are many things that I haven’t done or achieved that perhaps another 5, 10 or 15 years would have given me. I still have and had the mentality of a twenty something, some naivety about me, self-doubt, confidence and inexperience that hopefully will diminish in time. Had I been older I would have had more life experience and perhaps more knowledge? More confidence? More self belief?

Yet, I will also still only be in my mid forties when my children turn twenty.  They will also grow up and fly the nest, leaving me with time to fill, countries to visit. It won’t be the care free way of my twenties but it won’t be impossible either.  Should I need to or wish to rejoin the working world it will be there when the time comes. It might not look the same, I might not be able to walk back into the position I once held but it will be there, as will Thailand.

me and both my babies. Was it the right time to have a baby?

MR and both of my babies when they were new babies

I think its fair to say we can always find a reason not to have a baby, there will always be a promotion, a new or first house, a holiday, an experience that we want first. I don’t believe there is a ‘right’ time. Scientifically there may be, but life is more than science. The only answer I can justify is there may be a more suitable time or a time that is right to you and yours. Only you will know if and when the time is ‘right’, what everyone else is doing is irrelevant.

What do you think? Was there a right time for you? Had you achieved certain things or did you want to do things before you started a family? Did you do them? Does it bother you? Do you think there is a right time? I would love to hear from you.

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59 Comments

  1. Felicity
    August 26, 2016 / 6:16 am

    Totally not a “right” time!! Though, being in a similar position to you – I don’t feel I had the choice to wait until my thirties to have kids! I’m glad I have my girls at this age and will explore the world when they’re older too, just a shame rich will be drawing his pension when that time comes šŸ˜‰ ha!x

    • tammymum
      August 26, 2016 / 6:38 am

      I couldn’t agree more with you Felicity, given how similar our situation is lol xx

  2. August 27, 2016 / 12:25 am

    I don’t think there is a “right” time either – it’s different for everyone. I had my first when I was 32 although I think I would have happily started a family much earlier – I spent a while waiting for hubby to be ready!

  3. August 27, 2016 / 7:11 am

    I really do believe there’s no “right time” to have a child. I was definitely unprepared. I never thought I’d have a baby. I left Britain to live in Denmark, two months later I was pregnant. Still, my boyfriend and I weathered the storm and got through it. We’re now content and not freaking out. #fortheloveofBLOG

  4. August 27, 2016 / 7:43 am

    I completely agree about their being no right time but whatever time it happens it’s perfect because you get your baby. I too was in my mid-twenties when I had my first baby and found that stepping off the career ladder a real concern but having just returned after my second baby I am now getting my foot firmly back on and my ass in gear. We have lots of years ahead of us to get to where we want to. Something I was really concerned about when I looked around after my first baby and saw all these established career women some in their forties being able to enjoy their maternity leave with their first baby. But like you say we are all different and we all have different paths we just have to do the best with the path we take! Fab post #fortheloveofBLOG

  5. August 27, 2016 / 7:53 am

    There is no right time in my opinion. I was 31 when I had mine and so far my only one. Part of me thinks I might be too late to have a second – considering we’ve not even made my mind up if we’re having a second – but that’s life. I wasn’t ready prior to my 30’s so hats off to you for going for it and still having that time. I think there will always be things we wished we had done before going into parenthood but they always seem to pale into insignificance when you look at your little ones. #fortheloveofBLOG

  6. August 27, 2016 / 8:36 am

    I don’t think there is a right time for being a parent. I think whether you do it early or later you will still have time to do the things you want to. Now my children are older, hubby and I are planning all the places we want to go :)
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  7. August 27, 2016 / 8:37 am

    I don’t think there’s a right time as such. Your life sort of evolves around children and changes dramatically no matter your age. I was 30 when I had my first but would have preferred to be younger but it’s worked out well #fortheloveofblog

  8. August 27, 2016 / 9:06 am

    There is not a ‘right time’ to start a family. And I don’t think you’re ever prepared lol.
    I had my children in my twenties which means I’m still young enough to do the things I’d like to now they’re grown. Maybe I appreciate that more being older … but I can’t be sure.
    #fortheloveofBLOG
    PS your baby pics are beautiful :-)

  9. August 27, 2016 / 9:08 am

    I don’t think there’s ever a perfect time to have a baby. My first I was up to my eyes in debt and worried how I’d cope with a useless husband but I did and came out the other side. Oliver who I wanted more than anything we sadly lost and my Pops I fell pregnant with 2 weeks aided terms accepting a new job and promotion! Not ideal but hey ho!! #fortheloveofblog

  10. August 27, 2016 / 9:26 am

    The funny thing is, when you’re ready to have a baby you can’t guarantee it’s going to happen. We did IVF both times and the second time we suddenly had to start the IVF cycle as I’d just had an operation which gave me a ‘window’ for it being more effective. The first time round with Big Munch, I’d wanted a baby as soon as we got married. Then it ended up being a 2 year wait before we finally started IVF treatment. (I’ve started to write about our journey on the blog if anyone’s interested). I know me and Mr H did lots of cool things before we had kids. Life changes but doesn’t mean you can’t do cool stuff and travel just because you have kids #fortheloveofBLOG x Sunita

  11. August 27, 2016 / 9:29 am

    Your right there is no such thing as a right time. Yes if we’d waited till we were a little older we may have been in a better position. But at least when we are in that better position our kids will be old enough to benefit from it.

  12. August 27, 2016 / 9:38 am

    It’s hard because I think we want there to be a ‘right’ time to make ourselves feel better, but there will always be compromise – whether that’s youth, travel, career, moving etc etc the list goes on! I’ve just taken the nightly decision to give up work to be a SAHM (something I never planned) and my big worry is about getting back on the career ladder and competing against younger people in the future. I’m also now trying to ponder the ‘right’ time for a second child. But then who knows how longs thing will take! I think sometimes we just have to be happy with our decisions in our hearts and go for it. Everything else will work itself out if you try to make the best of your situation.
    Lovely post, I’ll definitely be back to read more xx
    #fortheloveofBLOG

  13. August 27, 2016 / 9:38 am

    I don’t think there is a wrong and a right time necessarily, I do remember finding my second baby a lot more tiring as I was 4 years older than before. I personally am so grateful I had a full on fulfilling career before and then with kids but on the other hand being younger when they are 20 is amazing and then having energy to travel the world is fantastic! #fortheloveofBLOG

  14. August 27, 2016 / 9:52 am

    I’ve had children at 24, 26, 32, 33 and 34 and with a decade between my first and last, I feel as though I have experienced the best of both worlds. Having my eldest at 24 was a very different experience to having my youngest three. I was the first of all of my friends to marry and have a baby and I found it a very isolating experience and I lacked the confidence as a mother in many ways. In my 30s, my friends are just now starting their own families and I have found that socialy, I have enjoyed it much more this time round. I am also much more confident in my 30s and although I wouldn’t change it fot the world, I do think that for me, 24 was still so young. #fortheloveofblog

  15. August 27, 2016 / 10:10 am

    Such a well thought out post and so well written. You’re right; there is never a perfect time but the right time to have a baby is when YOU want to. Life changes but it doesn’t stop xxx #fortheloveofBLOG

  16. August 27, 2016 / 10:13 am

    I don’t think there is a right time. We all manage differently. I was married at 28, and wanted to wait til I has turned 30 before we had our first. I was 34 when our little LP came along. We are tired and don’t want to be approaching 40 with another on the way, so two is our lot, but there are pros and cons to having a baby at any age. If we thought about it too much it would probably never happen. Xx #fortheloveof BLOG

  17. August 27, 2016 / 10:18 am

    I don’t know if there’s ever a ‘right’ time to have a baby – you can never really be prepared for it no matter what your age, can you? I had the Popple at 32 (almost 33), which I think was about right for me, since it gave me my 20s to travel and experience the freedom of being to sleep in late, make last-minute plans and do whatever I wanted. Like you, I still have a lot of things I want to do and places I want to go, but I’m glad I didn’t wait much longer to have a child, since I know things get more difficult once you hit 35. I’m hoping I’ll still get to those places – it just might take a bit longer. #fortheloveofBLOG

  18. August 27, 2016 / 12:18 pm

    There is definitely no ‘righ time’ you’ll always be too young, too old, not have enough money, have more to do and see, need a bigger house etc etc. There’s only what’s right and what’s possible for you. I also think there’s no wrong time either. Just time. #fortheloveofBLOG

  19. August 27, 2016 / 12:21 pm

    Really interesting question. I was quite broody before I got married and then as soon as we tied the knot I lost the urge – think it all felt too grown up! For me, I wanted a career before children, as I knew the dynamic of my working life would change once I had children (I worked in marketing and travelled a lot). I think it’s worked out quite well. I would prefer to be a couple of years younger, but you have to wait for miracles to happen šŸ˜Š x #fortheloveofBLOG

  20. August 27, 2016 / 1:28 pm

    I had Peachy in my early 30s and that was the right time for me. I had 10 years alone with my husband and time to build my career, save money, and find myself. I’m sure the “right time” is different for everyone. It depends on your priorities, your partner, your personality, and on how many kids you plan on having. #fortheloveofBLOG

  21. August 27, 2016 / 4:29 pm

    I don’t think there is a right time as such. I am now what is considered to be an older parent (mid forties – yikes) we did the whole fertility thing, then adopted…but I had 13 years with my DH pre kids – had a blast, now I have two older kids, living in Paris, still having a blast (oh though times in-between). Learning to take life as it comes, and letting go of my inner control freak! #FortheloveofBlog

  22. August 27, 2016 / 6:13 pm

    No I don’t think there is a right time, just a wonderful time to hold the little ones in our arms. We make our own path. I waited until I was 35 to have my first and did my travelling and career thing then went straight back to it after the little ones were born. Everything is achievable and you are right, it’s all still there to be done:)

    Mainy x

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  23. August 27, 2016 / 6:15 pm

    I didn’t meet the my hubby, the man I knew I wanted to have children with until I was 35 so didn’t really have the choice to have children earlier. I had a great time being single, travelling etc. When we got pregnant we were both more than ready. I love being a slightly older parent as I feel I am more equipped to deal with everything that children bring. My only regret is that I won’t have as much time to spend with my kids as younger parents with, but you never know! #fortheloveofBLOG

  24. August 27, 2016 / 6:47 pm

    I agree about there being no right time. Piglet was a surprise, but we had planned on pulling the goalie just 6 months later so he wasn’t that much ahead of the game. I don’t deny a little extra time to get some things sorted before being pregnant would have been good ( we were moving house) but I wouldn’t change it! #fortheloveofblog

  25. August 27, 2016 / 7:36 pm

    It’s hard to know the right time when we’re surrounded by so many myths.Younger mums may have to take a career break sooner, but that obviously means they can get back to it quicker and make up for lost time. Plus parenting is incredible life experience and really helps to provide focus. #fortheloveofBLOG

  26. August 27, 2016 / 7:51 pm

    I had both my babies in my 30’s after building up a great career and living life to the full but now with 2 kids my career is going to take a back seat and im having to take a lesser role within my company due to childcare needs & not wanting to be away from my kids.#fortheloveofBLOG

  27. August 27, 2016 / 8:19 pm

    My sister was in her 20s when she had her two babies and I am in my 30s with two, I don’t think there is a right time either, there are so many variables, so many advantages and disadvantages to both. I think as long as you are happy with bringing a new life into the world, then it is the perfect time. No one copes well with sleep deprivation and I often think it may have been easier in my 20s but then I wasn’t very confident or responsible in my 20s, I was catching up on my sensible teenage years!! I think nowadays it is so easy to have a life after kids and get back into work because it’s so dynamic, it may not be perfect but hopefully we’re not done yet, whether we’re in our 20s or in our 30s or even our 40s! Lovely post, thanks for sharing! #fortheloveofblog

  28. August 27, 2016 / 8:27 pm

    You’re completely right, there is definitely not a right time. I focussed on a number of other things in my life so that I would feel I had ‘ticked those boxes’ when I had children. Whilst it helped me to accept not being able to do certain things once I was a parent due to limited time, it doesn’t stop me wishing I could go further (at work, in sport etc). But I think driven and motivated people always want to move forward. So you’re completely right, you have to just do it when it feels the most suitable time.
    You’ll definitely be able to take the legal world by storm when / if you choose to go back. And give it few years and you can have some great holiday adventures with your kids. It’ll be fun to see the world through young eyes!

    Thansk for sharing your thoughts!

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  29. August 27, 2016 / 9:51 pm

    The right time is usually the time you do it, because that is all you know. I waited, had a great life and great experience, and had a great time with the babies and toddlers – however, I am now in the teens and I’m tired. I look at the future teen I will be dealing with in 8 years time and it makes me soooooooo tired at the thought of it and how out of touch I will be. So start young and be fit for the teen-coaster or start late, have a blast, see the world and then maybe struggle more with the new generation and their issues. What’s right? I wouldn’t do it differently but there are ups and downs to both…#Fortheloveofblog

  30. August 28, 2016 / 6:59 am

    Definitely no right time in my experience! I always planned to have my first at 25, except that I was only just starting a relationship with my husband so probably a bit too soon ha ha! I had my first at 33 and planned to have my second 4 years or so later. Things didn’t work out and we were told we wouldn’t have any more. Then, I unexpectedly got pregnant at 41 and had my second just 5 days shy of my 42nd birthday.Sometimes even you can’t decide when the time is right! I wouldn’t change a thing though :-)

    #fortheloveofBLOG

  31. August 28, 2016 / 7:12 am

    It’s hard to decide when the right time is…but I think everything happens for a reason! I’m sure you will fly career wise when your littles are older. It is really hard feeling like others are overtaking you – I work part time at the moment and I find that but really hard. #fortheloveofblog

  32. August 28, 2016 / 7:27 am

    I don’t think I could say there is a right time as everyone is different and in different circumstanced but for me starting a family at 25 was fab – I’m 42 but got a 17, 15 and 13 year old – I’m now not too old to cope with the up all night parities, late pick ups from friends’ houses, music blaring all hours – it’s also great knowing that my husband and I can go travel the world once they are all at University – it’s scary that it’s only 5 years away but we will still be young (well I think so!). Great post lovely #fortheloveofBLOG

  33. August 28, 2016 / 8:23 am

    I was 32 and I have no idea if that’s the right time. I’m sure you’ll get to experience all of those things in years to come. My partner is (a lot) older than me and never did nights, so I’ve been knackered for 18 months now. #fortheloveofBLOG

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

  34. August 28, 2016 / 9:07 am

    I love this post. I definitely don’t think there is one set age for everyone, it depends on each person. I had my first baby at 22 and will be welcoming my second into the world in October when I’m 25. I always knew I wanted kids fairly young and I love my life but I do sometimes wish I had waited until I had a career of some kind before hand. We’ve managed financially but I have felt a bit lost at times not having a job of my own. Like you, I will be in my early 40s when my boys turn 18 and probably go off to uni or move out..there’s still plenty of life left there to travel the world and work if you want to. Really well written post and your fb feed sounds exactly like mine!xx #fortheloveofBLOG

  35. August 28, 2016 / 11:12 am

    I’d definitely have had them earlier but I had to wait for me right to have my little man in my early 30,s. It’s all about circumstances of your planning but some people don’t plan it just happens by ‘accident’ and they make the best of it. It certainly is the best!! #fortheloveofblog

  36. August 28, 2016 / 1:52 pm

    I’ve written about this topic as well and I think it’s a really interesting one. Basically, the “right time” is whatever is right for you and suits your circumstances. I knew that for me, I wanted a baby by 32 at the latest, partly because my mum had an early menopause so I knew that waiting any longer could make things more difficult. I actually had a deadline (the London Olympics!) Unfortunately, I never met the perfect man I had hoped for, so decided to go it alone and my son was born when I had just turned 34. I’d love to have more children, but still haven’t met anyone and time is getting on, and I financially I can’t go through fertility treatment again at this point, so whatever will be will be! #fortheloveofBLOG

  37. August 28, 2016 / 4:29 pm

    I’ve got a post about this publishing next Thursday. Apparently the average age to have a baby in the UK is 30. I had my first baby at 24 and I wouldn’t change a thing. I do sometimes wonder if I’m missing out on what everyone else is up to (traveling, careers, etc) but, as you say, these things will be there later. I love having the energy to run around with them and do cartwheels in the garden :-)

  38. August 29, 2016 / 4:35 am

    What a lovely, thoughtful post. I didn’t feel ready AT ALL until I was 32 and then, boom – I *had* to have babies. I’m glad I had the time beforehand to travel, get where I wanted to in work, etc. and I think you always think ‘what if..’ but that way madness lies šŸ˜‰ #fortheloveofBLOG

  39. August 29, 2016 / 7:05 am

    I agree there isn’t a perfect moment , but there are probably some times that are better than others. I was 30 – that was probably an ok time ! #fortheloveofblog

  40. August 29, 2016 / 8:24 am

    I was 20 when I fell pregnant and as a result I left university. Life has certainly been different as a ‘younger’ mum but I agree, I don’t think there is ever a right time really, you just deal and adapt! #fortheloveofblog

  41. August 29, 2016 / 8:47 am

    It’s a tricky one, I fell pregnant with my son when I was 22 and it wasn’t planned, although we were living together and had been together for a few years we really weren’t ready and it felt like the end of the world. Looking back now I’m glad we had the kids when we did, they are now 3 and 5 and things are slowly getting easier. x #fortheloveofBLOG

  42. August 29, 2016 / 12:01 pm

    I don’t think there will ever be a right time. Like you say, there would always be something – travel, new home, new job, etc…. I feel what’s more important is that you feel supported when pregnant and as a mum. I had a very difficult pregnancy and though it was the “right time”, I was caught off guard but I have amazing family support that made me feel, “Yes, I can do this. I can be a Mum.” Thanks for sharing with #bigpinklink

  43. August 30, 2016 / 10:02 am

    This is such a good point. I have found that families are getting older these days and new parents are more in their 30s. I had my little man when I was 25, and feel considerably younger than any other mum when I drop him off at nursery. I definitely don’t think I was too young, and feel like you. That I am pleased I will still be young when they are growing up and in their 20s. #fortheloveofBLOG

  44. August 30, 2016 / 2:23 pm

    I love this post. There never really is a right time is there?! And you are so lucky that in your 40’s you’ll get to enjoy extra freedom while you are still young. I am a writer and always wanted to write a book before I had my daughter but it didn’t work out that way. Instead she ended up being my inspiration and I wrote a book after she was born! It just goes to show that planning doesn’t always work and sometimes life just happens. #fortheloveofBLOG

  45. August 31, 2016 / 7:32 am

    I could’ve written this myself! Though I’m also seeing loads of people getting married and having babies too I’m only the second in my group of school friends, the rest are travelling or working on their careers. I’m glad I had my baby young because I’ll still be young enough to experience holidays and things with him. But I am a little worried about my next move career wise, I’m not sure what my next step will be once maternity leave ends. I also think having a baby is such a shock to the system that you’re never ready! I could go on with my thoughts on this but I think I’ve rambled incoherently enough! #bloggerclubuk

  46. August 31, 2016 / 11:15 am

    This is really interesting. I don’t think there’s a right time at all. Like you I’m fairly young – I was 25 when TM was born, but B was 39. I always knew I wanted a family and I wasn’t particularly career minded or ambitious so for me having a baby at this age felt right, and especially as I knew B had wanted kids for a long time and is conscious that he is going to be an older dad. It just depends on the people and honestly whatever age you are it’s still a shock and a whirlwind!!

    I don’t think the sleep thing is true by the way – in fact I’m sure you sleep less as you get older?! #bigpinklink

  47. August 31, 2016 / 11:42 am

    There’s definitely no ‘right time’! We waited a long time after I originally wanted to have children, mainly due to financial pressures. So we are lucky to feel relatively financially stable now. But I was 30 when I had my first and now I’d really like another and time is ticking on, which does make me wonder if, in hindsight, it would have been better just to go for it sooner. But what will be will be I guess, and I don’t believe that it’s a decision you regret whatever time you choose to do it! #bloggerclubuk

  48. August 31, 2016 / 1:57 pm

    A very interesting subject! I was 31 when I had my first and am now 36, expecting my third. I’m glad I had my 20s to establish my career before becoming a mum, and I’m also glad the new mum/breastfeeding/sleepless nights bit will be over in time for my 40s #bigpinklink

  49. August 31, 2016 / 2:32 pm

    Every person has their own ‘right time’ they may not think it at the time but in hindsight usually people wouldn’t change a thing. Like you, I was 25 when I had my son, now I’m thinking about baby no.2. But like you say, houses, jobs etc all factor in. There’s always pros and cons to whatever the age, but I’m a huge believer in making the best of the situation you are in and jumping in, wholeheartedly, with both feet (she says in a sleepy daze) :) #bloggerclubuk

  50. August 31, 2016 / 8:06 pm

    I’m 26 and have much more on my plate than I ever imagine at this age, married, owner of 1 company, partner to another but I don’t have children yet. In my opinion some people are content with babies earlier, some later in life and then some are just happy whenever the time comes, that’s it for me, whenever the moment happens, it’s right. I don’t think you can ever truely be reayd for some things! #bloggerclubuk

  51. August 31, 2016 / 10:25 pm

    You are right, there is definitely no ‘right’ time, although some times are better than others! For example, being very young and not having the means to support yourself or your child must be difficult. For me, I was starting to panic that it would never happen, although when I look back now I realise I still had time really (I was nearly 35 when I had my first). I’m glad I did all of my ‘living’ first, though, and have no regrets. #FortheloveofBLOG

  52. September 1, 2016 / 9:28 am

    I don’t think there is a right time/right age to have a baby. It’s down to the individual. I was 26 when I got pregnant with my son and I think that was the right age for me. #ablogginggoodtime

  53. September 1, 2016 / 8:25 pm

    Its up to the individual when the right time to have a baby arrives. I might be old fashioned but I wanted to be married before I had a baby. We started when I was 30 ‘trying’ but through lots of heartache and sadness it took us until I was 33 to finally hold a baby in my arms. My plan was to have 2 by the time I was 35. That won’t happen now as it’s too risky for me to have anymore children. I feel blessed with our baby girl. xx

    #ablogginggoodtime

  54. September 2, 2016 / 12:37 pm

    I think that it all depends on the person. If you are ready or not. I was ready when I was 25 but theres no right guy then. I had my son when I am 36 and I think its just right. I am more mature (i think) in handling things … #ablogginggoodtime

  55. September 3, 2016 / 12:00 am

    I think for most people it just ends up being when it happens, but I think there are pluses and minuses both to being older and being younger. I think it probably just makes sense to embrace the positives of whichever time you did it. I think people often do in groups have a tendency to follow similar patterns though, probably just due to people congregating with like minded people, I expect. I think if I asked people around me, I would get a consensus of early thirties, because I hardly know anyone who had children before their thirties. I think perhaps there is always a first person who sets off everyone else so it depends when that first person starts! šŸ˜€ #fortheloveofBLOG

  56. September 3, 2016 / 1:57 pm

    This is an interesting post. I had my first daughter at 18, my second at 21. I am 33 now and all around me people are just settling down and having babies. I’m more broody than ever and totally feel like I’m missing out. My eldest is old enough to babysit for their babies! I don’t regret having mine at the age I did but did not expect to feel like this years down the line.

  57. September 7, 2016 / 6:31 am

    I am not sure there ever is a perfect time as you just have no idea what to expect really – you think you kind of have an idea but it still hits you like a smack in the face! I definitely didn’t choose the best time but it wasn’t the worst either!!
    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime