Tomorrow, I’ll do better

Tomorrow I'll do better

Do you remember last week? It was the week when it was over 30 degrees. I’m sure it hasn’t escaped you just yet, despite the cloudy skies and rainy days that have followed this week. Well last week was right up our street, blue skies and incredibly warm. Perhaps a little too warm for some and with the babies it isn’t always ideal, but it was short-lived, so we didn’t moan.

Anyway, on the Tuesday, the hottest day, the toddler was in nursery for the afternoon and Mr Tammy decided to take the afternoon off, he seemingly has a self-imposed I don’t work over 25 30 degrees rule’ – he works for himself so he was able to make this decision. Whilst the toddler was in nursery he, the baby and myself decided to pop out for lunch, in the pub garden…obvs, we are partial to a pub garden. It was a late lunch I don’t think we got there until after 2. Eating with only one small child to tame in public is considerably easier than the insurmountable challenge that eating out with two under two can often be.

I was glad of his plan, the morning had been a trying one. Nothing pleased the kids, they both refused to eat, moaned at the constant sun cream application, refused to nap, stressed me out over whether they were getting enough water, threw their hats on the floor. Ya know the general toddler/baby combo merriment we all encounter.

I didn’t have high hopes for the afternoon, but to my surprise, we had a lovely afternoon, the baby was well-behaved, ate his food, played with the plethora of toys we brought with us even had a sneaky bonus nap so we could sit and enjoy a relaxed drink. Bliss.

Daddy and baby 2

However all this I fear came at a cost. We strolled to get our daughter from nursery only to be reminded that it was nursery parents evening. OMG how could I forget? Admittedly I’m not sure what one gains from nursery parents evening but still I felt obliged to represent. So there I found myself, hot, sweaty, straight out of the friggin pub (the pub!!) getting my daughters nursery report from her key worker. Worst.mum.ever. Don’t get me wrong I wasn’t drunk but I knew where I had been. I don’t know why, it’s not like I’d just come out of prison, on crack.

We then got home to two over tired moaning babies. Argh. I was hot and flustered and mourning the end of the heavenly afternoon, that seemed like a distant memory already.  All my parenting will power had been zapped. The toddler wanted a biscuit, she got a biscuit, hell the baby even got a biscuit, or two… They ran riot in their nappies, I freely handed over the iPad, iPhone whatever was wanted. We skipped bath time and they were sent to bed dead on 7, there was no eking it out that night.

Running riot in nappies

Our shit tip of a living room in the midst of the baby takeover

Once in bed I sat down looked at Mr Tammy and I could have cried. I felt like a terrible mum. I was banging on about feeling guilty and that I should have risen above the frustration of battling the toddler over biscuits or the singing-cat-like moans from the baby. That we shouldn’t have gone to the pub because her nursery will now think I should go on Jeremy Kyle and if we hadn’t had such a stress free happy afternoon I wouldn’t be so pissed off and dealt with shit hitting the fan so badly at witching hour. He looked at me quite calmly and said

they don’t do bad bab, (yes he’s a brummie) they eat good food, they are looked after, loved and happy, give yourself a break. You will be a better mum tomorrow for having had a few hours respite today’.

Well stone the crows the man spoke sense. It was like a slap in the face. Why was I beating myself up about having enjoyed a few hours of peaceful us time. Why was I giving myself such a hard time at finding 2 under 2 hard work. They are after all.

Turns out, he was right. That few hours of a blissful summers afternoon spent with Mr Tammy and a happy baby, albeit in the pub garden, did me the world of good. The next day I felt refreshed, patient  and ready to face the full on, non stop day that two under two bring. So sorry babies if I was a little bit rubbish, tomorrow I will do better. And I did.

Mums and dads take a leaf out of Mr Tammy’s book, cut yourself some slack, enjoy some you time and don’t feel guilty for it. If  you get worked up by the kids, well join the club, we all do, we all have bad days and that’s OK.

Zara on seesaw

See the next day I did better. We went on the seesaw, which basically meant I spent 10 minutes doing squats.

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92 Comments

  1. July 29, 2016 / 6:42 am

    You really shouldn’t have beaten yourself up for having had a relaxing afternoon in a beer garden!! I am sure the keyworker was feeling nothing but jealously if they even knew! You are a fantastic mum – stop beating yourself up! I do love your point that going to the park is a mummy workout though… you are onto something there!! #triballove

  2. July 30, 2016 / 9:21 pm

    I totally agree – sometimes its all about survival. There are days when my girl eat too many sweets, watch tv and go to be without a bath – but hey that’s life sometimes! Great post and I am pleased you enjoyed your trip to the pub sometimes a little change in routine does us the world of good! #kcacols

  3. July 30, 2016 / 9:22 pm

    Oh my goodness you need to take every opportunity to relax that you can! The weather was made for beer gardens and two under two is so so hard. Been there! #KCACOLS

  4. July 30, 2016 / 9:26 pm

    What you doing feeling guilty for – you’re doing a fantastic job! Man, if you followed my instagram feed you’d see I regularly end up in a pub garden on a monday and tuesday lunchtime, albeit without 2 under 2, and I don’t feel a smidging bit guilty! Cut yourself some slack and hopefully it’ll reach over 30 again this week and Mr Tammy can take you out again 😉 #KCACOLS

    • tammymum
      July 30, 2016 / 9:37 pm

      Ha we too like the pub garden, or the just pub and are no strangers to it. It just got the really better of me that day – think having parents evening post prosecco wasn’t the clincher. Fingers crossed for the weather eh!… Off to find your Instagram feed – sounds right up my street hehe xxx

  5. July 30, 2016 / 9:27 pm

    Isn’t it typical to feel guilty when you can relax?! It seems like a lovely day for all your family. #KCACOLS

  6. July 30, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    Oh I LOVE this! Your mr is a very wise man. At least you remembered parent’s evening. I have forgotten in MORE than once! I’m glad you enjoyed a couple of hours off xx #KCACOLS

  7. July 30, 2016 / 10:08 pm

    I always feel guilty if I get time to relax. Why do we feel like that? Sounds like you’re doing a fab job. #KCACOLS

  8. July 30, 2016 / 10:27 pm

    Yay to a little time out. I’ve always said I need a little space to myself in the day to be a better Mum #KCACOLS

  9. July 30, 2016 / 10:41 pm

    Hehe very funny :) this read so easily. I can’t believe you went to nursery parents evening fresh from the pub. The pub! Lol jokes. #KCACOLS

  10. July 30, 2016 / 11:23 pm

    Your husband speaks sense (probably because he’s a Brummie) :) I always feel so much better and more enthusiastic about parenting when I’ve had a little break (doesn’t happen that often unfortunately!!) Please don’t feel guilty. Sounds like you are doing a fab job #KCACOLS

  11. July 30, 2016 / 11:26 pm

    Ahhh I totally agree. We put way too much pressure on ourselves sometimes, that nursery worker wouldnt have thought anything of where you’d been…she’d have just wished she’d been there herself! #KCACOLS

  12. July 30, 2016 / 11:35 pm

    Oh boy, as a mom of 11, I feel like this on so many days, but you know what? He is absolutely right. Each day we wake up we get a fresh start. Our kids know we love them, and that’s what matters!

    • July 30, 2016 / 11:45 pm

      Sorry! Forgot to mention that I’m visiting from #KCACOLS!

  13. July 31, 2016 / 12:43 am

    Maybe because I’m Australian, but I don’t even get the problem with going to the beer garden?? My favourite memory of our first European trip with a 2 year old was the 2 year old saying “Is it time for predinner drinks?” and the Germans next to us said “My, how sophisticated”. And frankly, all P&C (preschool parents things) should require you to be DRUNK because they’re so boring. 😉 High five from me. (More seriously, I have 3 kids and they are constantly reminded that while I spend hours on the weekend and evenings doing their things, they are required to do my things from time to time.)

  14. July 31, 2016 / 1:29 am

    Every mom needs a break sometimes :) I am glad you had a great day and enjoyed the next day at the park as welll. #KCACOLS

  15. July 31, 2016 / 6:02 am

    Your afternoon in the pub sounds lovely, and perfectly socially acceptable! Tuesday was pretty damn hot! We took ours to Legoland where the four year old had a great day but the two year old spent the day whinging loudly and I spent the day muttering “at least her entry was free!” to myself under my breath! I certainly earned those beers I drank when we got home 😉 I’m glad you had a couple of hours’ down time.
    x Alice
    #kcacols

  16. July 31, 2016 / 6:17 am

    so true we all need respite! We are totally to hard on ourselves as mums as women, let’s be kinder today! #kcacols

  17. July 31, 2016 / 6:22 am

    I couldn’t agree more honey! We are too hard on ourselves and we all need a break now and then! I bet no one at the nursery would say you were anything less than a fantastic Mummy!! And as hubs said, a few hours relaxing will help so much the next day. I hope it did and I hope you gave yourself a bit of a break. You are fab xx #KCACOLS

  18. July 31, 2016 / 6:49 am

    Hear hear! We all deserve a little respite every now and then and we shouldn’t feel guilty. That is something I am often guilty of myself. Whenever I have some time, I am always thinking I should be doing something but we’re not built that way. #KCACOLS

  19. July 31, 2016 / 7:23 am

    I think all mums feel guilty when they relax. I feel guilty doing something for me when my baby is asleep. I feel like I should spend that time making him food or hand sewn toys! I started a mum guilt series on my blog on Friday because we do all need to give ourselves a break!

    #kkacols

  20. July 31, 2016 / 7:45 am

    Sounds like you had a great afternoon. I often find bedtime difficult if I’ve had a drink beforehand – which i sometimes do as bedtime can take until 9pm here so I need a drink to see me through . Banish guilt it is not required ! #kcacols

  21. July 31, 2016 / 8:12 am

    Nooo, you shouldn’t feel guilty for spending one afternoon in a beer garden. We all need some down time and relaxation and it really does make you feel so much better the next day. Listen to your husband’s wise words..you’re doing a fab job xx #kcacols

  22. July 31, 2016 / 8:13 am

    Sensible and encouraging words from Mr Tammy! He’s a keeper. Banish that mum guilt, Being a parent is tough enough as it is. P.S. I think your seesaw photo is doing that thing mine sometimes do of turning themselves sideways when I upload them. #KCACOLS

  23. July 31, 2016 / 8:23 am

    Oh a lovely positive post and Mr Tammy is clearly a very wise man. We need to be kinder to ourselves #KCACOLS

  24. July 31, 2016 / 8:49 am

    You are quite right not to beat yourself up, you shouldn’t, you’ve done nothing wrong. We find it too easy to forget who we are when we become parents. Have a drink, nap, swear under your breath, out loud or whatever you need to do. Its tough being a mum and dad, give yourself a break:)

    mainy x

    #KCACOLS

  25. July 31, 2016 / 9:31 am

    I am so glad you listened to your husband – he most definitely did speak sense! You are absolutely allowed to have some respite! Like you say, we all have good and bad days it doesn’t make you a bad mum one bit! #KCACOLS

  26. July 31, 2016 / 10:04 am

    Oh I have this guilty feelings all the time! I don’t think you have anything you have to feel guilty about at all tho :) ~KCACOLS

  27. July 31, 2016 / 11:38 am

    Well said Mr Tammy! We all nee a break sometime, two babies in that heat was a whinging nightmare for us too!

    #KCACOLS

  28. July 31, 2016 / 11:39 am

    Mr Tammy sounds like a lovely caring and sensible man. ‘Happy and Loved’ is most important.
    Amanda. #kcacols

  29. July 31, 2016 / 12:04 pm

    Oh my goodness, you shouldn’t feel bad at all!!! You NEED that time! Two under two?! AMAZING! I have one under two and I have days like that ALL of the time. I feel permanently guilty. And I can’t even say he gets good food half of the time either as I am hopeless in the kitchen! I quite often resort to Ella’s Kitchen , pasta or baked spud! Be kind to yourself :) You’re doing great! X #KCACOLS

  30. July 31, 2016 / 12:09 pm

    I think we mums need to relax and have a break as well as we are constantly working almost 24/7. I have two kids aged 6 & 3 and they’re also a nightmare, so you’re not alone in this situation, lol But I like that attitude when you said, Tomorrow, I’ll do better… #KCACOLS

  31. July 31, 2016 / 1:36 pm

    I have two coming up to 5 now and it is still the same. Now and then all we do is watch telly, eat junk and go to bed without having really done anything of note. You just need these sort of days now and then. We affectionately call them Duvet Days. We might not stay in bed all day long, but we don’t tend to venture out of the house and if we do it is more likely then not just to get a takeaway. #KCACOLS

  32. July 31, 2016 / 1:45 pm

    “Tomorrow, I’ll do better” is my constant mantra!

    I think just worrying about how good we are shows that we must be doing okay. #KCAKOLS

  33. July 31, 2016 / 2:01 pm

    Oh this is such a lovely post, and totally relatable. Especially those pesky eating out with kids situations, but it sounded like you had a lovely time. We all need a break once in a while and we all feel guilty for thinking and doing just that, but we are all human. Well done Mr Tammy for those pearls of wisdom and for helping you out things into perspective, you are doing a fantastic job! #KCACOLS

  34. July 31, 2016 / 2:34 pm

    We’ll always find something to beat ourselves up about. Don’t be so hard on yourself :) x #KCACOLS

  35. July 31, 2016 / 2:38 pm

    It sounds like your hubby is a very wise man. Everybody needs a little something for themselves sometimes. #KCACOLS

  36. July 31, 2016 / 3:19 pm

    so important to be able to relax as much as you can – don’t stress about it. Happy and relaxed mum means happy and relaxed kids in my opinion x #KCACOLS

  37. July 31, 2016 / 4:45 pm

    Cut the guilt trip out right now, honey! You get your kicks where you can – because you can be damn sure that there won’t be that many! When you get even the glimmer of a break, grab it with both hands and throttle it, until you can sit back and say: jeez, that was good :) Alison x #KCACOLS

  38. July 31, 2016 / 5:07 pm

    Totally agree-we all have bad days, and we need to be kinder to ourselves. #KCACOLS

  39. July 31, 2016 / 5:21 pm

    I bet you everyone would be feeling a bit flustered being “caught out” just out of the pub! Enjoying yourself for a few hours doesn’t make you a bad mum – neither do a few biscuits (or 5 or 6…) #KCACOLS

  40. July 31, 2016 / 5:44 pm

    You time is so important! I’m sure we’re all better mums after a bit of relaxation time, even if there’s temporary chaos in between! Sounds like you’re doing an amazing job. So ditch the mum guilt (easier said than done, I know) and enjoy the next sunny pub garden afternoon! #KCACOLS

  41. July 31, 2016 / 6:12 pm

    Fair play, if I could wotld off. I know what you mean about the guilt but your husbands. I used to get stressed providing all this stuff but you know they can’t have everything. Sometimes it is good to be selfish and have some ‘me time’. Plus they got their time the day after so everyone is winning X #kcacols

  42. July 31, 2016 / 7:23 pm

    Oh my goodness please stop beating yourself up. I honestly believe that happy parents make happy children and relaxed parents make relaxed children. It sounds like your afternoon in a beer garden was super relaxing and did the lot of you a hell of a lot of good. You should make it a monthly fixture. Enjoy yourselves. Life is for living. Pen x #KCACOLS

  43. July 31, 2016 / 7:42 pm

    Don’t worry, I was taken to the pub by my parents on the way home from the hospital after I was born, and I turned out fine! I think it all gets too much for all of us some days, and then all you really can do is let it go and start afresh the next day. x #KCAOCLS

  44. July 31, 2016 / 8:27 pm

    I know someone who turned up at their NCT class completely plastered and I didn’t judge him so turning up at parents evening not even tipsy doesn’t seem a problem to me! #KCACOLS

  45. July 31, 2016 / 8:53 pm

    I must admit I was reading this thinking when is she going to do something bad?! I am such a terrible mother I failed to spot anything in your post that I’d consider remotely bad 😉
    I had two under two, and it is TOUGH, so an afternoon in a beer garden is the very least you deserve, my dear!
    #KCACOLS

  46. July 31, 2016 / 9:33 pm

    This is fab and I totally agree but I need to tell myself that more often!! Xx #KCACOLS

  47. July 31, 2016 / 11:58 pm

    Such a lovely post, I completely agree with you sometimes we all need a break without feeling guilty #KCACOLS

  48. August 1, 2016 / 7:00 am

    It’s so important to look after ourselves otherwise we’ll burn out. I have to admit most days end with biscuits and IPads in our house! #KCACOLS

  49. August 1, 2016 / 7:53 am

    Really we shouldn’t feel guilty about get that little time to ourselves but I just think that’s being a parent to be honest. I was however quite jealous of the beers in the garden!!! #KCACOLS

  50. August 1, 2016 / 7:54 am

    Oh bless you! I have days where I beat myself up at the end of the day for not giving Mia enough attention, relying on the ipad for a bit longer than I should, getting a bit of work done while she entertains herself, etc…etc… but then, like you, I realise its fine, Mia is fine, its ok to have an ‘off’ day. We as parents, spend so much time trying to get everything perfect that occasionally one of those spinning plates falters slightly. Its not the end of the world and I’m glad you had a better ‘next day’ :)

    #KCACOLS

  51. Nige
    August 1, 2016 / 8:13 am

    Wonderful post we all need a break but guilt I think is just part of the deal #bigpinklink

  52. August 1, 2016 / 8:47 am

    it is all too easy to feel guilty and beat ourselves up. we are allowed an off day now and again :) #KCACOLS

  53. August 1, 2016 / 10:25 am

    We all definitely need and deserve some time out every now and then, and a couple of hours having a pub lunch in the afternoon is hardly time off anyway so you really shouldnt feel bad about it. Your Mr was so right, and I’ve found that after days like these, I always feel so much better the next day. A few hours here and there really does make all the difference :-) Emily #KCACOLS

  54. August 1, 2016 / 11:15 am

    Definitely don’t beat yourself up for enjoying a few hours in a beer garden! We all need a little ‘me time’ every now and then – it helps us recharge our batteries and makes us better parents. Plus we all have days when we can’t help but be annoyed by our kids – sometimes they’re annoying. It’s okay if we can’t always ride above it – there’s always tomorrow! #bigpinklink

  55. August 1, 2016 / 3:32 pm

    Grab some me time while you can I say. You can’t go running on empty. #KCACOLS

  56. August 1, 2016 / 4:35 pm

    You didn’t do so bad, you didn’t leave the baby in the pub after all! And kids need you to give in to biscuits and IPads now and again, or otherwise there would be no point in them bothering us, would there? Heat gets to us all (as I’m sure you’ll see if it’s your turn to read my post!) #KCACOLS

  57. August 1, 2016 / 5:03 pm

    I’m all about cutting mums slack! Sounds like you had a fab afternoon and you deserve it! I’m hard on myself, I think we all are, have to say my kids get loads more iPad time then I would like but that’s just the way I cope at the mo! As long as they all go to bed happy and know I love them, to me, then the day is a win! #KCACOLS

  58. August 1, 2016 / 9:12 pm

    Oh you shouldn’t feel guilty hun, looking after children is hard work, and we are all entitled to a bit of me time. Plus it’s so easy to forget things, and don’t worry about how important it is…that’s just life. On our daughter’s 2nd day in nursery, I had the day off work and so did my husband, and we went and treated ourselves to cocktails and a fancy meal in central London, I think we have turned up a bit boozy. Thanks for being a fab guest co-host. Claire x#KCACOLS

  59. August 2, 2016 / 8:07 am

    banish that guilt! theres nothing to feel guilty about. Mums and Dads need that time to relax, break free and be themselves! #KCACOLS

  60. August 2, 2016 / 12:58 pm

    I do not feel that you did anything remotely bad, and you are actually a better parent than I am!! I’ve never attended nursery parents evening, because I just can’t bear the thought of it… They make the parents do crafts and try and get to know each other and everything-I will NEVER go!! And me and my husband have been spending every available sunny second in the pub garden this summer-our local has refitted their garden with amazing equipment for the toddlers, it’s all safe and enclosed, they LOVE it, and ask to go all the time, so we aren’t going to say no!! I must say, this is also the first summer that we’ve not done the full bath/story/bed routine every night without fail-they have been chucked into bed with the day’s sun cream still in their hair, and dirt between their fingers, but they’re having loads of fun, so I’m trying not to feel too guilty about it!! Wise and comforting words Mr Tammy!! I’m glad you listened to them!!
    #bigpinklink

  61. August 2, 2016 / 2:50 pm

    It’s amazing how one thing can throw us off guard hey! But by the looks of things, they had a great time eating biscuits, playing on the Ipad and even getting a “Piggy Night” – no bathing, that’s what we call it :) … An afternoon made in heaven for kids! So Mama, even though you felt guilty for a little while, like all of us do at some point, your husband said it so well.. Tomorrow is another day! #KCACOLS

  62. August 2, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    High five to parents giving themselves some slack. We work hard in all areas of our life and can’t be picture perfect mums and dads all the time. I totally missed out nursery parents evening and only saw the notice up a week after it had happened. That’s got to be worse 😉 #KCACOLS

  63. August 2, 2016 / 4:01 pm

    No need to feel guilty, sometimes being the best mom is just doing what helps keep you sane. If that is biscuits and no naps you’re doing great. #KCACOLS

  64. August 2, 2016 / 7:33 pm

    You really must make the most out of the 3 sunny days we have per year so absolutely a trip to a pub garden is essential! Our little one has nursery one day a week and we always try to do something whilst he’s there if we can. Everyone needs some down time now and again! #KCACOLS

  65. Helen
    August 3, 2016 / 6:38 am

    Try not to feel guilty – taking the chance to relax somewhat (are parents ever full relaxed?!) is so important :) #BloggeClubUK

    Helen x

    http://www.treasureeverymoment.co.uk/

  66. August 3, 2016 / 7:41 am

    Mum guilt is such a horrible emotion and ultimately completely pointless. Your hubs is right – you’re doing a fab job and should ease up on yourself xx #kcacols

  67. August 3, 2016 / 9:01 am

    Love this! I managed to miss out preschool information evening at nursery. The reason? We were focused on watching Wales play in the Euros that night! Good to hear another mummy’s blip! We can’t be perfect all the time #BloggerClubUK

  68. August 3, 2016 / 3:03 pm

    You should not feel guilty for spending a few hours away in the beer garden. It’s nice to have a break then you will feel more refreshed xx
    #KCACOLS

  69. August 3, 2016 / 3:18 pm

    This is so awesome-and something you definitely shouldn’t beat yourself up about! You’re doing such a wonderful job-parents have to survive too!! On a side note, it looks like I need to make a trip to your side of the world. I live in America, and in July/August, it’s rare to see a day under 100F (37 C)!! #KCACOLS

  70. August 3, 2016 / 11:37 pm

    A bit of a break is a good thing. And I’ve done far worse than turn up to a parents eve at nursery after a drink… I completely planned not to bother with our thirds ones nursery parents eve, just seemed like a waste of time ???? #BloggerClubUk

  71. August 4, 2016 / 7:35 am

    Well said Mr Tammy!!
    Sounds like you had a lovely afternoon xxx
    #KCACOLS

  72. August 4, 2016 / 7:55 am

    Oh I am so with you here – we’ve been to the pub a few times on a Sunday afternoon and when we got back to bath my little one, I just felt like the most irresponsible mother ever. Once she even bounced off the bed and was so guilt-ridden. But I agree, we all need a bit of time off from time to time, we need a couple of beers here and there. Another brilliant post, really enjoy your blog lovely xx #bigpinklink

  73. August 4, 2016 / 9:12 am

    I don’t know why we beat ourselves up so much for having time out – we all need to do it and having two under two is bloomin’ hard work so I have to say your afternoon in the beer garden is even more deserved! Glad you felt better for it afterwards and Mr Tammy’s advice is spot-on! I have to say though your tip of a living room looks a lot better than mine generally does during the day! #ablogginggoodtime

  74. August 4, 2016 / 1:26 pm

    I think we all have these days some times. I just have ever one child and feel overwhelmed and like I’m a bad mom all the time. It’s so hard which is why I think it’s essential that we have a supportive community. #KCACOLS

  75. August 4, 2016 / 6:26 pm

    You are not alone, we all have days when it gets on top of us, we’re only human after all! Everyone deserves a break now and then! #ablogginggoodtime

  76. August 4, 2016 / 6:51 pm

    Its always so hard to be a mother isnt it? And I can only imagine how you can handle 2! I hope that you will feel better. There are days that you will really feel bad but it doesnt mean that you are a bad mother. Believe me I have done worst and I try my best to forgive myself so that I can move on and be better. Sometimes it works, sometimes its doesnt but yes tomorrow is another day. I am sorry if I am not making any sense haha. #ablogginggoodtime

  77. August 4, 2016 / 9:27 pm

    I love this post because you found the bright side of what happened. One of your children had a surprise afternoon with both of their parents that’s priceless! I’m sure your other little one didn’t notice anything about you rocking up at nursery straight from the pub!! They don’t seem to notice our guilty feelings. They benefit from it in a way as we give them extra attention at the next opportunity! #KCACOLS X Sunita

  78. August 5, 2016 / 7:12 am

    Nothing to feel guilty about at all I say!! We all need to grab our rare moments of peace and pleasure where we can. #BloggerClubUK X

  79. August 5, 2016 / 5:53 pm

    Don’t feel guilty – some relax time is essential, not just acceptable. Happy mummy=happy kids, etc. What’s wrong with a few biscuits, anyway?! #KCACOLS

  80. August 5, 2016 / 6:19 pm

    Sounds like an afternoon in the beer garden was a good idea despite the guilt. If I was the key worker I’d have been so jealous that’s where you were #kcacols

  81. August 5, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    It’s funny because reading it from the outside I want to say that you are being too hard on yourself, but I think I would feel the same. Puts things in perspective #KCACOLS

    Nadia – ScandiMummy x

  82. August 5, 2016 / 9:41 pm

    Two little ones under two, I think it’s safe to say you deserve a lovely afternoon at the pub! x #KCACOLS

  83. August 6, 2016 / 12:24 am

    Good advice! It is hard work – I had two under two (now a 2 year old & a 3 year old), & you do feel bad for the times when it doesn’t go great but really it’s quie normal. #KCACOLS

  84. August 6, 2016 / 7:23 pm

    Aw I really enjoyed reading this. We definitely should not feel bad about having some ‘us’ time. P.S you are not the worst mum ever… you actually WENT to nursery parents evening. #KCACOLS

  85. August 6, 2016 / 8:38 pm

    He’s right, you need to cute yourself some slack. The amount of time I spent in pubs with my dad is insane – an afternoon in a pub garden on a summers day never made for a bad parent. #kcacols

  86. August 6, 2016 / 8:43 pm

    This feels like my mantra at the moment. When ever I get gloomy at not doing it right I try and run through the bit’s I did get right. It’s a good day if there’s more of the latter!

    #KCACOLS

  87. August 10, 2016 / 10:44 am

    Seriously sweetheart you need to give yourself a break. You do an amazing job and I don’t know how you do it! Hate to say it but Mr T is right!

    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime #triballove