There is a craze going round the parenting blogosphere and that is the mummy tag. It is a series of questions being put to mums, about being mums. I was tagged by the gorgeous and talanted Ellen who has a fabulous blog babies, biscuits and booze. She is a girl after my own heart and I do urge to go check out her blog, for funnies, parenting and brilliantly written words. I was also tagged by the brilliant Claire, who writes a wonderful and always entertaining blog about family life over at The Pramshed. So here is my Q&A…
1. Are you a stay at home mum or a working mum?
Argh my last published post answered this question. Last week I handed my notice in and left my former career as a lawyer. Our intention is to start up our own business, so I will be working, albeit in a different capacity. You could perhaps call me a WAHM. It’s was a tough decision though, I wrote a lost many moons ago and the decision of to work or not to work, which contained a lot of my fears of not going back to work, and also staying at home.
2. Would you have it any other way?
I suppose I can’t really answer that one yet. Ask me again in 6 months time and I might know…
3. Do you co-sleep?
No, well with my partner, does that count? On really tough nights I did share a bed with my daughter but she is quite an independant little thing and as a first time parent I was a little scared about it. With my second he shared my bed at times, namely when he thought it was appropriate to try and get me up at 5am, after being up half the night but by 10 months he was solely in his own room sleeping through. So all that once they’re in your bed they’ll never get out malarkey, was rubbish, for us anyway. That being said I am very much a believer in, whatever gets your through the day, or night, and whatever works for you and yours. No judgment here my friend.
4. What is your one must-have item for your baby?
This has probably changed as they have aged but initially it was certainly my medela swing pump. It saved my breast feeding journey with both my babies. I think it is a fabulous bit of kit and is affordable, portably and so bloody useful. Since then either, Ashton&Parsons teething granules (aka baby crack).
5. How many kids do you plan on having?
Well I think it’s probably fair to say we are part of the ‘two and through’ club. We had two babies in 11 months, a girl and a boy and our second was born so early (our first was also prem) and was so poorly at times I am not sure either of us could face going through it again. My partner also has a teenage daughter, so with 3 between us we have quite the collection.
6. Date nights? How often do you have them?
Of late, not all that often. That being said the grandparents are very good to us and we could schedule one in with their help, which we now doubt will.
7. Your child’s favourite show?
They’re not big on TV yet as they are quite young but my daughter is prone to the Mother Goose Club on YouTube. If you are unfamiliar it is a bunch of American kids, dressed in brightly coloured crazy clothes singing nursery rhymes. Oh.the.joys. My boy isn’t overly fussed just yet, having only just turned 1 but he is partial to a bit of in the night garden, but aren’t they all?
8. Name one thing you brought before you had the baby you never ended up using?
Umm actually I don’t think they’re was anything. We have somehow managed to wrack up a grand total of 6 prams in the last 23 months, if that counts…don’t ask!
9. Your child’s favourite food?
My boy will eat anything, literally anything I am yet to find something he doesn’t like. Given how underweight and poorly he had been, long may it continue. My girl on the other hand a lot more fussy, but she loves anything I don’t like her eating, chocolate, crisps, ice cream, cake you name it – all the bad things. That and yogurt! She loves yoghurts.
10. How many cars does your family have?
37, bear with, family business does actually mean we have a lot of cars but we have 2 on our drive so we’ll go with 2.
11. Weight gain, before pregnancy, during, after and now?
Really? Weird. I gained a fair bit with my first, I lost it all (well give or take a couple of lb) and then got pregnant with my second, didn’t gain quite as much with my second, but then lost most of what I did gain, not all admittedly, I have a ponchant for wine and chocolate, and spin classes our few and far between with two under two.
12. Dream holiday with your kids?
Having been myself I have to say it’s got to be Disney Florida. It was an amazing holiday that I found magical and amazing as a grown up so to experience as a child must be out of this world, when they are old enough to remember and enjoy the rides of course. I would also chuck in seeing a bit of America too, we did this and drove to Miami, it was A-MAZ-ING. It is definicely a place for a long party weekend as an adult, but still south beach and some of the finery is amazing to for the kids to see to, admittedly some not so nice places you should stay away from. I kid you not we had this actual conversation with the hotel receptionist
Me: sorry, excuse me (British) umm which way to the town please?
Receptionist: well you don’t wanna go thada way (points), that’s the ghetto, and you really don’t wanna go that thada way (points again) cause thass even further in the ghetto and I wouldn’t even go there, nuh-uh.
13. Dream holiday without the kids?
Hmm there are lots of holidays that I think aren’t child friendly, or at least not baby friendly. I would love an adults holiday in Santorini in one of those ridiculously over priced cliff side hotels, with hot tub, infinity pools, the works. But I wouldn’t leave my kids for long enough, not yet anyway. Or I would absolutely love love love to do a trip of Vietnam, China and Japan, I just think culturally they are so different and there is so much to see the experience would be mind blowing.
14. How has your life changed since having kids..
Oh my god in every which way. Nothing is the same but that is fine by me, most of the time, I’d like a lie in every now and then. But really life is very different, we have tried to carry on doing as much as we did pre children but let’s face it having babies changes things there’s no point hiding from it. We holiday different, we socialise different, we sleep different, eat different, exercise different, think different, you name it, it.is.different.
15. Finish the sentence ‘it makes my heart melt when’
I check in on my little ones sleeping at night. They are so peaceful, content, innocent and vulnerable. It brings the biggest smile to my face, makes me realise how lucky I am and just how much I love the bloody the bones of those babies.
16. Where do you shop for your kids?
Most places really, they wear a variety from Asda, Matalan, H&M, M&S, Next, Primark. Kids, espcially babies, get through clothes so quickly and stain them relentless they are constantly being washed so I am not really crazy about spending lots of money on them. But that’s just me. Perhaps when they stop growing so rapidly and can be trusted with a knife and fork they can have Ralph Lauren polos to match their dad…*rolls eyes*…
17. Favourite make up and skin care range?
Oh this is right up my street, I do like Lancôme for skin care, especially their Gentifique serum , it is so velvety smooth, cliche much? and I do like a bit of Nivea and Vichey too. It always feels so thick and moisturious – yeah I know not a real word. In terms of make up, pre kids, I wore more, now I am all about eye liner and mascara oh and a bb cream. But when I get chance I do like a to do my make up and generally reach for bobbi brown, MAC and Lancôme.
18. Huggies or pampers?
Pampers, every time. Although I do like an Asda nappy.
19. Have you always wanted kids?
I haven’t always been the most maternal of people and I think it would be fair to say that I am still not one of those people are naturally amazing with ALL children. But I have always wanted kids and believe I have a lot to offer my children and am naturally pretty amaze with mine (yes I will say so myself) – and that’s what counts right?
20. Best part of being a mummy?
The cuddles, the love, the sense of reliance and trust they have in you. Everyday they do something that amazes me, makes me laugh, and melts my heart. I could watch them for hours, handy really cause I have to.