The reality behind the Facebook holiday 

The reality behind the Facebook holiday 

I am currently sat on my sun-lounger facing the pool on our last day of our holiday writing this (although we are no doubt back in Blighty by time you are reading this, and I manage to get it posted) baby 1 is with her dad in the kids pool and baby 2 has just been put down for his morning nap. It is an oh so rare few minutes of time by myself allowing me to indulge in a post holiday summary. If you are Facebook friend of mine and are reading this you have no doubt seen some lovely family pictures of mum, dad and kiddies enjoying our Menorcan break, coupled with some shots of sangria and the odd mojito. Facebook has shown our picture perfect family holiday. Well guys rest assured that picture perfect glimpse into our holiday was just that, a fleeting, momentary glimpse that passed us by as quickly as it did you.

The reality was of course a little different, although our flight out here was successful all things considered it would seem as though we peaked on arrival.

The weather

Some days looked like this, and they were beautiful warm summer days with an ideal breeze for the babies.

Holiday beach photo

Other days looked like this
Cloudy holiday beach photo

It was a risk coming to the Balearic islands, islands known for the sometimes changeable weather, but it seemed as though the skies were clear on the lead up to our holiday and again upon our departure, the two weeks in between however, not so much. As a teenager I would have had a full on meltdown if the sun didn’t shine on my foreign holiday. Sadly I have not grown up much. I still felt the petulant anger toward the ominous clouds, although for different reasons. I was no longer preoccupied with the darkening of my skin, but what on earth to do with my two under two. One day it rained, all day. I hate a wet day at home where they have their toys, the freedom of their house to run riot in or even the god dam soft play. But here, in a two bed apartment made of tiles, sharp cornered tables at perfect toddler head height and a toddler who is obsessed with spinning around did not make for a relaxed mum. At one point I do believe I was rocking in the apartment. All colouring, sticking, iPads, toys, everything and anything had been exhausted and it was still raining – it was only 1pm. There was still a long day stretching out in front of us. So what did we do? Legged it the hotel bar, sought refuge in a bottle of cava and let the toddler run riot up and down the bar with the other kids and despairing adults.

Baby 2 

For the last 11 months baby 2 has been a happy placid easy going little boy. That was until about 2 days into said holiday. I would say he had moaned approximately 90% of the time, save for when he was eating or sleeping. The problem, I believe, has been he wants to crawl and move about. Before we left he was not yet crawling (still playing catch up from his early arrival) however had we had carpet to put him on I think we would now have a little mover. But alas the Spanish do not do carpet, and given his inability to actually crawl I was somewhat reluctant to put him down on the tiled floor and wait for the inevitable face plant and broken nose. The result? one frustrated little boy. The answer? Pushing him in his buggie (you dare stop for fear of moaning), feed him or let him sleep. It’s been a challenging time I’d say…

Baby 2 by the pool on holiday

The only safe place…


La Farmacia

I don’t generally do ill, ya know I’m a mum, mum’s aren’t ill, but this holiday, oh my god was I poorly – for a mum anyway. I spent 4 days unable to eat, and (warning TMI alert) if I did eat it came straight back out at an alarming rate. Cue trip to la farmacia numbero uno. So there I found myself in a pharmacy having an unfortunately loud conversation with the pharmacist in front of too many people asking for some form of Spanish immodium. I then spent 4 days traipsing round different towns of Menorca with one eye out for the nearest loo. Not pleasant. Then disaster really struck, on the penultimate day Mr TM got ill. Dads do get ill you see and the only cure, bed rest. 

We also visited the pharmacist for, antihistamine (yep I managed to get hayfever), mouth ulcer treatment, plasters, and ante acids. Yep a record amount of visits I think and money spent.

Chicken pox

The pox had indeed descended upon our hotel, one by one kids were becoming infected with the red itchy spots. Given you have a roughly 5 day no fly incubation period and would be effectively house bound on your Spanish holiday, pox really would have been horrendous. Then 2 days before we were due to fly home some people we had become friendly with broke the news, their babies had the pox and they were on a flying embargo. OMG Our kids have played with their kids. SH***********T.  We were on spot alert, examining every inch of their bodies bi-hourly and breaking out in a sweet at the sight of an ominous red bump. So far so good. Watch this space.

Was it all bad?

I appreciate moaning about being lucky enough to go on a 2 week holiday in the ‘sun’ makes me sound like a bit of a knob. That’s not the intention. More of a reflection of how holidays have well and truly changed. There is no sunbathing, no enjoying a leisurely cocktail, no doing anything leisurely actually. You are instead trying to entertain babies all day, stop them from burning, stop them from drowning, stop them from running off, trying to make sure they eat something other than chips and ice cream all day, you are on your feet and on high alert all day everyday. The usual ‘bed time rescue time’ doesn’t even kick in thanks to the inventor of mini disco. But with that came a lot I wasn’t expecting. My nearly two-year old’s speach came on immensely in two weeks, I think the two weeks intense family time, attention and conversation really helped. She thrived on mini disco and  playing in the pool. I do believe she had the best holiday of all of us and that was truly lovely to see.  Admittedly she went a little funny when strangers approached, unless you were a Spanish man…she had no problem talking to, waving at and high fiving Spanish men, I really do not know where she got that from… Further both babies constant snotty noses and difficult breathing eased up, we met some really lovely people from all over and did consider extending our stay…until we realised actually it might be more relaxing at home. So no it wasn’t ALL bad.

Baby 1 eating chips and cream together one holiday

All new patenting high, dipping chips in ice cream

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50 Comments

  1. June 26, 2016 / 6:50 am

    What a great post, I think we all know holidays with young children aren’t all about sunbathing & cocktail drinking but it was great to read despite this (& a few other setbacks) you all had a great time. We moved to Spain with a 1 & 3 year old & unfortunately the 1 year old has had her first stitches thanks to the tiled floors!!! Fingers crossed for no more!

    • tammymum
      June 26, 2016 / 6:53 am

      I was wondering how the Spanish get on with the not so soft floors, I wondered if I was just being a bit of wuss not letting him practice as surely that’s what the Spanish do? But he does face plant a lot so I took the cautious approach. Fingers crossed for no more head bumps! How lovely it sounds to have moved to Spain, so very envious xx

  2. June 27, 2016 / 8:41 am

    Firstly, chips in ice-cream – love that! Holidays with toddlers always sound like a great idea (or do they?). Glad you had some fun and met some lovely people – sorry you were so poorly and I really hope the chickenpox hasn’t made an appearance … yet! #BigPinkLink

  3. June 27, 2016 / 9:20 am

    I loved this – it sounds exactly like the holidays that I had when my kids were small. I think you must remember the good bits more as you get older because I definitely look back very fondly on our family holidays with young kids. xx #MarvMondays

  4. June 27, 2016 / 9:44 am

    This made me giggle and I know it shouldn’t- but your pictures are priceless. Especially the picture perfect ‘could be a postcard’ photo of the beach and sunshine quickly followed by rubbish weather. And I have a little crawling monster too, nowhere is safe and the fear of faceplant is so very real! #marvmondays

  5. June 27, 2016 / 11:23 am

    I think it’s important to admit that holidays aren’t perfect – especially with young children! We have such high hopes for our holidays, that in a way they can’t help but not meet our expectations. It sounds like you had a good time despite all the setbacks – hope you manage to avoid chickenpox! #bigpinklink

  6. June 27, 2016 / 11:42 am

    So sorry to hear that you were poorly. Double eeks on the chicken pox! I would have been so worried too. I had the same fear as you when the weather has bad and we were stuck in our hotel room, mind you, not even an apartment. I was so worried that they would either hurt themselves or damage the hotel room. It is an adventure to travel with young children! Thanks for linking with #bigpinklink

  7. June 27, 2016 / 12:43 pm

    This made me chuckle. ‘There are lies, damned lies, and Facebook posts’ is the now saying I believe ;). Sorry you were poorly. Mother is like you with the weather – this is because, as Father says, she is solar-powered. I am dreading going on holiday with her shortly. Lovely to hear that your child really came on during the hols – and bonded with the Spanish men! #bigpinklink

  8. June 27, 2016 / 6:32 pm

    Oh you poor thing! I’ve been put off going abroad as I contracted the WORST stomach bug I’ve ever had on the last one and it lasted for 2 weeks – the plane back was NO fun! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

  9. June 27, 2016 / 7:33 pm

    aww I really feel for you and chuckle as well because it is so true -the facebook vs reality holiday!! we went away when b was 11 months and it started fine and after day one he got ill and it was horrid and we just wanted to come home :/ a lot to be said for staycations and haven haha ! #bigpinklink

  10. June 27, 2016 / 8:13 pm

    I’m yet to experience a holiday with a baby, and it fills me equally with excitement and dread! You have confirmed the best and worst bits for me though, and I can’t wait to take my munchkin abroad next year. Lovely post #marvmondays

  11. June 27, 2016 / 9:41 pm

    Oh God this sounds like a nightmare! Just goes to show how Instagram and Facebook photos do not ever tell the true story! I love that you put him in a cot at the side of the pool though – hilarious! #bigpinklink

    • tammymum
      June 29, 2016 / 8:19 pm

      Ha yes we were that family lol! Yep social media can be great but very misleading at times…although I don’t suppose that is always a bad thing xx

  12. June 28, 2016 / 9:45 am

    Even in your second pic, the weather still looks better than in the UK. Thanks for being so refreshingly honnest about your holidays. I am not the only one to have experienced so-so vacation
    #chucklemums

  13. June 28, 2016 / 7:26 pm

    If you want to make yourself feel better, head over to my blog to read about my holiday. Honestly, I swear to god I am *never* going again. Love the cot pic – my son decided he would learn to walk on holiday at 10.5 months which was VERY RELAXING for everyone involved. Thanks for making me relive it 😉 #chucklemums

  14. June 29, 2016 / 10:58 am

    aww this took me back.. I remember these days so well, so much mum stuff to do when all I really wanted was to sunbathe lol – it does get easier and the days of sunbathing and a lunchtime cocktails will return. Normally around the age they can swim well and make friends, memorise your phone number off by heart (just in case) and no exactly what spot you’ll be at… when those days come, you’ll be laughing! To be fair, minus the few hiccups it sounded pretty good! :) #bloggerclubuk

    • tammymum
      June 29, 2016 / 8:18 pm

      Ha yes the been there done that vibe I am going is that swimming and friends is looking like the way forward for that peaceful happy family holiday we all crave. It wasn’t all bad lol but it certainly had its moments! Thanks for your comment xx

  15. June 29, 2016 / 1:21 pm

    I really actually quite resented holidays with the boy when he was really little. Where the relaxing? Where the cocktails? Now though, with a swimming again and a few little chums, we’re all happy! #chucklemums

    • tammymum
      June 29, 2016 / 8:16 pm

      Yes that does seem to be the general vibe I am getting from parents who have been there and now have older kiddies. It’s all about the swimming and friends, if you want to see another cocktail again xx

  16. June 29, 2016 / 3:12 pm

    Oh bless you babe! This has reinforced my decision not to venture abroad as I find holidays in places I can’t speak the language & getting too hot makes me a little stressed and anxious at the best of times haha. Love that your adorable little girl had such a wonderful time, and I am sure your little man will be crawling about in no time at all! How awful that you were so poorly, rotten timing.

    It is funny how things change. We just had a weekend away with my uni pals and had to pick the pubs based on where had baby changing facilities rather than the cheapest beer haha. #BloggerClubUK

    • tammymum
      June 29, 2016 / 8:15 pm

      Haha see we do like a sunny foreign holiday in our household so I imagine that won’t be the last, not so holiday esk type holiday we have.

      It is funny isn’t it how things change. It’s all about the family friendly pubs these days. Baked beans and mash potato are a must on the menu. Xx

  17. twotinyhands
    June 29, 2016 / 6:06 pm

    I must admit for all your negative reasons is probably why I think you are so brave to go abroad with two little ones! Way braver than me! Says me who takes a tent and baby to Scotland, little else! Glad you had a good break though, all be it the bad stuff! ???????? #bigpinklink

    • tammymum
      June 29, 2016 / 8:13 pm

      Haha see I would say you are way braver than me, a baby and a tent, no walls, electric, the elements. Oh my goodness, no you definitely win. Xx

      • twotinyhands
        June 29, 2016 / 9:12 pm

        Lol, let’s not swap… ????

  18. moderatemum
    June 30, 2016 / 6:54 am

    Oh my goodness this is funny and so true! It’s all a Facebook illusion. We went on holiday when our boy was crawling and were similarly stressed all the time. We had one lovely hour when we dragged our travel cot into the bar #BloggerClubUK

    • tammymum
      June 30, 2016 / 6:58 am

      Haha that made me actually LOL I love the thought of the cot being in the bar. Woman after my own heart. Thanks for your comment xx

  19. June 30, 2016 / 7:02 am

    Love the cot by the pool! Holidays with young ones are definitely very different, and it’s so true that we only post pour best bits and not all the crap that goes on behind the scenes! Hope you had a good holiday despite the illness! #coolmumclub

  20. June 30, 2016 / 8:21 am

    We haven’t managed a foreign holiday with Baby Lighty yet but I can well imagine it being as you describe, and feeling exactly the same way (especially about the weather!). And I didn’t think you were a knob at all!! #coolmumclub :)

  21. June 30, 2016 / 8:41 am

    Love that picture of the cot by the pool! I haven’t taken my almost 2 year old on holiday abroad yet, but if it is going to improve his speech I may need to! Sorry to hear you got ill-hope you”re better now. It sucks being ill on holiday (and yet it always seems to happen, in my experience anyway!) #coolmumclub

  22. June 30, 2016 / 11:41 am

    Oh wow! Poor you :( The sunny Menorcan beach looks gorgeous, but holidays in the rain are awful. We had 2.5 days of rain on our holiday in rain and visited Ikea just so J could run around and let off some steam! I don’t blame you for hitting the bar! I didn’t realise chicken pox had a flying embargo, what a nightmare that would have been! Luckily you have escaped it so far.

  23. June 30, 2016 / 4:19 pm

    Haha dipping chips in ice cream. Oh wow, what a holiday. So sorry you were so poorly and then your partner. Thank goodness the children were OK to fly, hopefully still ok…? I love the way you’ve debunked the Facebook myth…we all know it exists…we all know things aren’t as normally as rosy as the pics but it’s good to say it out loud from time to time too. Although I wish you’d had the most picture perfect, Facebook envy-inspiring holiday ever. One day! #ablogginggoodtime

  24. June 30, 2016 / 8:01 pm

    Oh no, you really had some pants luck on this trip! Overall it sounds like you can see the funny side of it. We just got back from a week as a 4-piece and came home wanting more – maybe if we’d had 2 weeks I’d have felt different! (Chips and ice cream were our kids staple diet too!)
    Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub with your fat dose of reality :-)

  25. July 1, 2016 / 6:49 am

    Thank you so much for you awesome honesty. I actually have a post planned myself re old holiday vs new holiday because it can be such a big adjustment. Facebook does only provide snapshots and it’s so reassuring of you to share the less than perfect moments.

    We just came back from Ibiza and at 3 my son now qualifies for the kids club so we grateful used it for two sessions during our week to enjoy a little sunbathe and a quiet drink – bliss! Thanks for sharing your truth xxx #bloggerclubuk

    • tammymum
      July 1, 2016 / 6:58 am

      Ah the kids club, I do believe that will have its part to play in future holidays, even if it is just an hour here or there. Yep Facebook can have a lot to answer for sometimes. I will be sure I look out for your post – it is such an adjustment! X

  26. randommusings29
    July 1, 2016 / 1:37 pm

    Sounds like a mixed experience between good and bad. It’s awful when it rains abroad, there’s so little to do and I imagine that’s even worse with toddlers. Having said that, I’d choose a rainy day in Spain over a sunny day here at work any day lol
    Thanks for linking up to #BloggerClubUK :)
    Debbie

  27. July 2, 2016 / 6:28 am

    Ah bless you, this really is the reality of holidaying with young kids…can I just firstly stop and say how amazing the poolside cot is! Ours was similar and was almost cross with frustration that she couldn’t move about how she wanted to, it makes it very difficult on the parents. Sounds like you had a good holiday anyway and hope the pox stayed away! #bigpinklink

  28. July 2, 2016 / 7:30 am

    Ah, holidays with kids are always hard work but this sounds so tough – what a shame for you! So true about Facebook though…it’s easy to think everyone is having perfect holidays and weekends but that’s not always the case! #ablogginggoodtime

  29. July 2, 2016 / 9:59 pm

    Travelling with young children far from home is so much less glamouros than it sounds half the time, however we still do it so there must be enough good moments. fingers crossed on the pox! #KCACOLS

  30. July 2, 2016 / 10:15 pm

    Linking up again for #kcacols and I can totally vouch for kids clubs. They’re a godsend even if just so you can have lunch together in peace!

  31. July 3, 2016 / 12:43 pm

    I must admit that I really don’t fancy the idea of a foreign holiday with little ones…I love travelling but haven’t been since I was pregnant with my first, our only holidays have been fairly local since the kids arrived. I hope that if the pox is upon you, it doesn’t hit too bad!
    #KCACOLS

  32. July 6, 2016 / 11:14 am

    Ha ha there is always truth behind the pictures – the ones you shared look gorgeous, To be fair… I’d throw my toys out of the pram if my holiday wasn’t sunny. I think that handling two such young children on a foreign holiday for so long you did really well – OH NO to the POX!! Glad they are ok xx

    Thanks for linking to #ablogginggoodtime #triballove

  33. July 7, 2016 / 8:06 am

    Love this! I think very few people post honest accounts of anything on social media, something which I take with a pinch of salt now when I see photos portraying the perfect life! Our holiday last year with our four children was HELL ON EARTH, I blogged about it on our return and I couldn’t even think of one good thing to say about it, but that’s the case for many I think, especially when you’ve got poorly, whingy, fed up kids and a rainy UK location! Stupidly we have booked again and go in two weeks time, I have no idea why we are putting ourselves through it again but hopefully we’ll have better luck! #stayclassymama

  34. July 7, 2016 / 9:52 am

    I have a Facebook life and a real life! In Facebook, it’s all glasses of Prosecco and sunsets and in actual life, it’s toddler rages, poo accidents and dirty dishes….

    #StayClassyMama

    • tammymum
      July 7, 2016 / 9:56 am

      Haha yes don’t we all! Nice to know we’re not along though eh xx

  35. July 7, 2016 / 12:04 pm

    Oh how holidays change when you have children! We are desperate for a holiday but know it will be anything BUT relaxing, so are considering waiting until next year. Oh the decisions! It sounds like you had a very normal holiday, and I laughed out oud at Toby in the cot by the pool! Thank you for linking up to #KCACOLS Hope you come back again next week xx

  36. July 7, 2016 / 10:59 pm

    It sounds like you need a holiday to get over your holiday! You’ve got to love the facebook life haven’t you. Mine looks like someone elses life most of the time lol #kcacols

  37. July 9, 2016 / 11:08 am

    Holidays are very hard. I’m hoping ours will be easier since we will have other family to help with our toddler. Im sorry it was so rough. I canthink imagine trying to deal with a chicken pox outbreak. #KCACOLS

  38. July 9, 2016 / 11:12 am

    Holidays really do change when you’ve got kids! Our first holiday abroad with my daughter, five, was in Feb! To Disneyland! We’ve yet to take her on a sun holiday but hoping to next year. #kcacols

  39. July 9, 2016 / 6:22 pm

    Very honest post! And yes, holidays do take on an entirely new meaning as a parent. We haven’t attempted any sunshine holidays yet! #KCACOLS