Linkys, speed dating for bloggers 

Linkys, speed dating for bloggers 

Love them or hate them we all (well mostly all) take part in a good old link up. But it has occurred to me of late that they’re not too dissimilar to speed dating. Well, I say that but I should also probably say that I have never actually been on a speed date but I have watched enough to TV to get the gist – I think.  So linkeruppers, or speed daters, here’s the comparisons I see:

Speed date:  you walk into the room you eye up your next 30 minutes of conversation . Linky: the page loads and you eye up your next 30 minutes of ‘digital conversation’. The word conversation is used a little fast and loose here admittedly, the comments you leave can strike up conversation, just not always the fast flowing type

Speed date :  you write your name on your sticky label and stick it on yourself for all to see. Linky: you copy and paste the linky badge to the bottom of your post, for all to see.

Speed date: you pull up a chair and the chat begins . Linky: you add your link to the list then click on the hosts post and start reading.

Speed date: you move to your next 3 minute date and so on  and so forth. Linky: you click the next hosts post, the post before yours, and the mandatory ‘other’ that takes your fancy.

Speed date: dating over and you decide if there’s anyone you may like to see again. Linky: reading and commenting complete, you may or may not RT a particular post you have read, if you’re that way inclined. You may even hit that golden ‘follow’ button.

Speed date: alternatively you may have caught someone’s eye and they ask for your number. Linky: you have a new Twitter follower (woo) and maybe a new blog follower (double woo).

To my mind people go on a speed date for a bit of non committal fun but with potential, whatever that potential may be I’d say is up to the speed dater (nudge nudge wink wink). As with us linky participants, it to is a non committal way to get your blog out there and have a peruse of others, you don’t have to subscribe, or even read (bar the hosts, previous post and ‘other’…of course). The potential of a linky is not to be sniffed at, repeat visitors become ‘known’ the continuous Twitter reminders and obligatory ‘I’ve just linked my post to…’ Tweet gets your name out there. Not to mention your post itself, frequent flyers may gravitate toward your post once you’ve been spotted a few times, and they’ve enjoyed your content.  I know I have in the past headed toward the same bloggers posts that I have previously enjoyed. A bit like a speed date there is nothing to be lost in partaking in a good old linky, they call it a ‘linky party’ for a reason ya know, so don’t be shy visit your local linky party (which is all of them when your on the big wide web) and join in. It is, in my opinion, a fab part of blogging that showcases lots of fellow bloggers and their brilliant posts.

Here’s a list of some of my regular haunts – it is by no means a definitive list, and there are lots more out there to take part in, I for one am still uncovering a lot but it’s a good place to start.


Marvellous Monday’s – hosted by the ever stylish My Petite Canard and Hello Archie 

Big pink link – hosted by the talented Pink Pear Bear and This Mums life 


A bit of everything linky – hosted by brilliant writer that is Agent Spitback (seriously check out the blog)

A brand new day – hosted by the lovely Two Tiny Hands

Treasured moments – hosted by the wonderful MS calling


My Wicked Wednesday photo – hosted by the hilarious brummymummyof2 

Bloggerclubuk – hosted by by the gorgeous Mudpie Fridays and Cuddle Fairy


Coolmumclub hosted by the original and forever cool mums Mum Muddling Through and Motherhood the Real Deal

Family fun – hosted by the brilliant diary of an imperfect mum  

Brillaint blog post – hosted by the award winning Honest mum


The list – hosted by the undeniable greats of the blogging world You Baby Me Mummy and Mr and Mrs Plus 3

Fab Friday post – hosted by the fabulous Ethan and Evelyn plus a alternating guest co host The Real Lara Shoe Admissions of a working mum Bumbismon and Kippers and Curtains  

Pick n mix Friday hosted by the wonderful (not mention oh so lucky living in Cornwall) A Cornish Mum and Mummy and monkeys 


KCACOLS keep calm and carry on linking Sunday – hosted by the truly lovely A Moment With Franca 

So in the words of the fabulous Franca – Keep Calm and Carry on Linking

Cuddle Fairy
My Petit Canard


  1. March 29, 2016 / 1:56 pm

    A great post! I love the take on it. I hadn’t thought of it like that but the comparisons are scary! Also love the linky guide. Will be checking out all of these. Thanks! Xx

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 2:50 pm

      Hope it comes in handy lovey x

  2. March 29, 2016 / 2:08 pm

    Great list! Very true linkys are a bit like a speed date lol Thanks so much for including blogger club uk in your list! x

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 2:49 pm

      My pleasure x

  3. March 29, 2016 / 2:20 pm

    Love the description of the #coolmumclub hosts! Pressure! 😉 xx

  4. March 29, 2016 / 3:07 pm

    This is really original!! Great comparison!! I wouldn’t thought of that before but now after reading this it has sense!! lol and it made me laugh!! 😉 There are lots of amazing linkies out there! Thank you so much for mentioning me and for including my linky in this great list!! I love having you at #KCACOLS. :-) xx

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 3:28 pm

      You’re very welcome Franca, thank you for such a lovely comment. Glad you enjoyed the post xx

  5. twotinyhands
    March 29, 2016 / 4:07 pm

    Brilliant post! I’ve met some fab people (cough cough, including yourself) in my short blogging life! It is a bit like online dating too, I met my man online, so why not friends too!! Thank you for plugging #ABrandNewDay! It’s only a week old! I feel very privileged! Karen x

  6. March 29, 2016 / 4:08 pm

    I loved this. I did once go speed dating with a friend, well we went then when we saw the men we ran said we needed the loo and ran away before it started. Thank you so much for the mention and the brilliant you made my day, really! ????

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 5:40 pm

      Haha how funny! And yea brilliant – I think those nominations can second that one! ???? xx

  7. March 29, 2016 / 6:56 pm

    So true, great post and it definitely caught my eye from across the room! Hehe! Thanks for sharing some link parties I haven’t seen before. G X

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 7:32 pm

      Thank you, hope it comes in handy xx

  8. March 29, 2016 / 8:17 pm

    A great selection and great intro – I perhaps need to try speed dating as linkying is rather fun, well done lovely x

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 8:24 pm

      Hehe thank you xx

  9. March 29, 2016 / 9:38 pm

    Great post, so good I’ve shared like a speeder, oh that sounds weird now lol. Really handy linky guide, thanks:)

    Mainy – myrealfairy

    • tammymum
      March 29, 2016 / 9:47 pm

      Haha thank you! Glad it’s useful x

  10. March 29, 2016 / 11:12 pm

    This is such a clever post! Loved it and laughed at it as well – speed dating! So many blogs to love. Thank you for the mention xx

  11. March 30, 2016 / 9:32 am

    Great post, they really are similar. I love linkies, I think my blog would have about two readers if it wasn’t for them! Speaking of which I saw this at #BloggerClubUK!

  12. April 4, 2016 / 7:21 pm

    Fab post and so true! I have never thought of it that way but they really are not too dissimilar! Have saved this for reminders of the weekly link ups, thanks! #MarvMondays

    • tammymum
      April 4, 2016 / 7:24 pm

      Oh good i hope it comes in handy! Thanks for your comment X

  13. April 4, 2016 / 8:55 pm

    Aw thank you for the mention lovely, the post did make me a laugh I have never been on speed dating but I think I much prefer linkys :). You have also listed some which I have not come across before so once my maternity leave starts I will be checking them out. Will also be pinning. Thank you for joining us at #BloggerClubUK hope to see you again this week x

    • tammymum
      April 4, 2016 / 9:00 pm

      Ah thank you for your comment. Glad I have introduced some new ones to you. Hope you enjoy xx

  14. November 15, 2016 / 9:05 pm

    I love linkys. they are so good for finding great blogs to read and occasionally good friends too. Plus I think they are an essential part of blog promotion.