Whilst being a parent is without doubt the best thing I have ever done, I would be lying if I said it doesn’t at times take its toll on your relationship. The ‘us’ time is eaten up by these new little attention seekers who you now dedicate your every waking (and sleeping) minute to. Any tolerance and patience you once had has been lost along with your night’s sleep and your conversations are more often than not focused on your little bundles of joy – even if you do manage to make it out the house for a child free date night.
With this in mind it is safe to say Mr Tammy and I are not the most publically affectionate couple. We don’t kiss each other and say ‘missed you’ when the other gets back from the bar (yes I have seen it happen!) nor do we post copious amounts of photos proclaiming our love on social media (by the way no judgment to those who do, courses for horses and all that). We do however say those three words (almost) daily and I always get a kiss goodbye but I know there are many things that I don’t say but I think you should know:
I know I can be grumpy after a bad night with baby two (the night shift sucks). I know and I am sorry.
I know you work hard all day to provide for us. I know and I am grateful.
I know after that hard day we are often stood at the door waiting for you. My day was hard too and my tether is nearing its end. I know and I am grateful.
I know I get pissy when you sleep in the day. I am jealous. I know and I am sorry.
I know you like a tidy house and you often come home to a child’s play den mascarading as a laundrette. I know and I am sorry.
But most of all I know you DETESTE mornings, especially anything before 8 o’clock, yet you get up with baby number one so I can get that bit extra sleep. I know and I am ETERNALLY grateful!
This is not a finite list, I just wanted to let you know that I am grateful for all you do. I hope you know that.